The hair question again

[Larisa]

Yesterday while at my job I got asked about my hair and how much longer I was growing it. Every so often somebody does ask. I had no easy answer ofcourse since most do not know why I grew it long over the past years. Most there don't know Im trans so any answer is very hard to say.

I guess when I think about it, there are rare times when I miss having it really short for some reason but that thought comes to me hardly ever and I would never give up my long hair up ever! I guess some people miss the short hair maybe. If I did cut it, my dysphoria would come back horribly and the last 2 times I cut it all off, I felt like hell.

Id love to give an answer but I don't know how people would react to the answer and than the answer will bring more questions. I wish it was easier to say or that people just knew me as Larisa. That would be even better duh!!

[Megan.]

Like many I was growing my hair out at work before being out,  heck I even had my hair transplant (I'm sure my colleagues must have thought I was a very vain guy!).
I had several comments from colleagues about my hair length as it got longer, I never gave an explanation,  simply agreed with their observation and moved the conversation on. If they had suspicions, they certainly kept them to themselves.

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[Lady Lisandra]

I'd say I don't know, that you're just letting it grow. I was never asked about how much I would grow my hair. I've always changed hairstyles drastically. From shoulder length to shaved. Now I want to have it as long as possible, I want to see how it looks, but I miss my shoulder length hair.

[coldHeart]

I've been growing my hair for over 25 years now & when people ask why I used to say I was in to rock music & they believed me 😊
Sara

[DawnOday]

Tell them you want to emulate Jesus. 90% of the first members of Congress, getting back to your roots...as a cave dweller. How about this one. None of your business.

[Deborah]

I gave a few different answers depending on my mood.  Here are the ones I used most often.  This always works to forestall further questions.

* I like it!
* I'm maintaining balance in the universe since so many men are bald.
* I'm protesting against the patriarchy.
* I'm a liberal hippie.



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[Lexi Smith]

Tell them you want to emulate Jesus. 90% of the first members of Congress, getting back to your roots...as a cave dweller. How about this one. None of your business.

Great one Dawn!  😃

[Jessica]

I used to have long hair till I was 40 (hippie).  I cut it because it was always in my face.  At the time I was aware that I wasn't sure about my gender.  I had many fantasies of me being a woman.  I'm in my 1st month of Spironolactone and estradiol, maybe I should consider growing it back.  At the time numerous women commented on they wish they had my hair.

[Jenny94]

Y'know, I had long hair several times before I even realised I was trans, and it was never a big deal - a guy with long hair is not such a crazy thing in the UK. I guess it depends where in the world you are, but I find it incredible that people anywhere feel the need to make a thing out of a (perceived as) man having long hair...the fact it's even unallowed in some offices. Madness! If anyone asked me why I had long hair (without realising I'm actually a girl), I imagine I'd just say "uuuhhhhh because I haven't cut it for a while". Similarly, "Why are you vegetarian?" - "Because I don't eat meat." =P

[LizK]

Born into a military family it was "short Back and sides" or a crew cut for me. Until the late 70's where I was allowed to have a little length in it. Not to my Fathers liking...but that was many years ago now. Then I never got a chance. So its been nearly 2 years I have been growing it out and have long hair for the first time in my life...

I love it and hate it...I love the way it looks but the time I have to spend looking after it is huge and then there is getting it caught in everything....windy day roll up the window because my hair is blowing everywhere...catch huge wad of hair in window...now stuck with face plastered to the drivers side window frantically scrabbling for the switch again....still not enough for me to cut it...I am sure I will get sick of it... but not yet.

[Lady Sarah]

I've had long hair since I grew it out after high school. I never cared what anyone thought about it. These days, I get people asking if it's my real color. No more questions regarding the length.

[Charlie Nicki]

I'm getting the same question about my hair AND my weight loss. I simply agree with them like "yeah I've lost weight, I'm just naturally skinny" or "yeah I'm letting my hair grow, got bored of short hair" nothing elaborated...I'll just agree and move on, don't make it a big deal and chances are they won't either.


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[KarynMcD]

I never got the how long you ar going to grow it, just the "why" questions.

Some of my answers:
Why not?
Short hair is boring.
Long hair is more fun.
I'm becoming a women. (You need to say it "matter-of-fact".)
My hair isn't longer. My head is shrinking.

[JoanneB]

Say you are rebelling against the scruffy, yet clean cut metro-sexuals? That real men not only eat quiche but can have long hair. Long hair you can cut if you get tired of it. Tats are forever

Say you don't paid enough to afford hair cuts?

A bet with your mom to see how long it needs to get before dad explodes?

Your wife/gg/SO likes long hair?

Say you are like an ageing Hollywood star or rocker with that long hair and baseball cap look. I can be cool and balding at the same time 

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[RobynTx]

I used to shave my head daily.  Now when asked about my hair I just say I got a free bottle of shampoo and need hair to use it.

[Laurie]

  Hair? what hair? It is mostly gone now. 

Laurie

[davina61]

need to cut my fringe all 5 of them!!!!!

[steph2.0]

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My neighbor was shocked one time when he saw me through the door with my hair untied down my back (it's about halfway to my waist. He told me, "Your hair is longer than your wife's!" I answered, "I can't help it if her isn't hair isn't as long as it used to be."

My go-to answer though, especially for bald guys is, "All your hair is on the inside. I keep mine on the outside so I can think more clearly."

Stephanie

[JoanneB]

My neighbor was shocked one time when he saw me through the door with my hair untied down my back (it's about halfway to my waist. He told me, "Your hair is longer than your wife's!" I answered, "I can't help it if her isn't hair isn't as long as it used to be."

My go-to answer though, especially for bald guys is, "All your hair is on the inside. I keep mine on the outside so I can think more clearly."

Stephanie

But what do you say when ... your boobs are bigger then your wife's? 

The hair for me is not an issue, balding since 14. The boobs though....

[Lady Sarah]

You could just say "to match my new earrings".