I thought I'd share where I'm at with my husband (now a woman in transition) and I are in our relationship. At first I Could not STAND to even think of him as a her, yet in time I decided to stay with him. Now she has come to me to say its not working. That they have decided to file divorce and that they wanted to tell me up front. I was blown away. My husband explained that to much was different between us, that to much was not working (we fight) and struggled with him coming out, the kids are being affected by our arguing, screaming and fighting. He is unhappy and can't truly be himself, and quite frankly I feel the same way. He said that he knows I'm miserable and he is miserable because I don't fully accept him or blindly love him. What really bothers me, is I know that his therapist has helped him come to this conclusion, that doesn't help things but at least it finalizes them for me.
So we are getting a divorce I've agreed to work with him to find a settlement that works for both of us. At this point, I think its best, and most healthy way forward, I need it so I can be me again, he needs it so he can really be she. I'm super worried though, I'm older, he is older..we were stronger together, I'm not sure how we will be apart. I will never marry again, and I am worried about the future. Whether I will find a man ever again at my age, how I will pay for things, how I will support our children, there are a lot of things I'm facing now.
I have to go cry now.
