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[JJ_BLOSSOM]

So I've got to wonder with my world goin down in flames around me AGAIN I guess I seriously have to wonder if I'm not dealing with something Bigger than me. I would always say "I would transition but I love my wife and kids too much and I have a great job" well along with losing everything else again I now lost my kids to the state lost my job and my wife's all but gone...literally in 20 days I lose her too....so now I'm without those three important things...now what? ??

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[Cindy]

What crisis services have you contacted. I know your addictions are over riding but is there somewhere that can help you stabilise ?

[Sarah.VanDistel]

So I've got to wonder with my world goin down in flames around me AGAIN I guess I seriously have to wonder if I'm not dealing with something Bigger than me. I would always say "I would transition but I love my wife and kids too much and I have a great job" well along with losing everything else again I now lost my kids to the state lost my job and my wife's all but gone...literally in 20 days I lose her too....so now I'm without those three important things...now what? ??

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Hi JJ!

I think it's the first time we meet... Look, I'm really sorry that things are not going well for you. However, I fail to understand a few things... Tell me: were those three losses the result of the fact that you are transgender? Or would they occur anyways?

I'm still at the very beggining of my own transition and one thing that I am absolutely positive about is that in order to have a succesful transition, one must have a solid plan, along with a plan B, C and even D in the case things go wrong. I know that sometimes the dysphoria can be so overwhelming as to make us overlook the need for a plan. We just want to do it and voilá! Alas, the path is seldom smooth and I think that almost every trans* (especially when married and a parent) have faced difficult times.

Now, you should try to get back on your feet. Did you already go to a therapist? She might offer you the support you need in order to help you structure your own life... Looking for objectives, priorities, sensible ways of reaching these.

Above all, JJ, it's not a moment for despair. I understand that you probably feel so traumatized that it's difficult to think straight. All you can think is: "I lost it all! What now?" Well, you didn't lose it all. Life goes on and you must find the strength to proceed with your own. Strength, lucidity and determination. Much of you future depends on your decisions, so decide well. That's why a therapist would be very helpful, I think. You, girl, need to have a Plan! And stick to it!

Hugs, Sarah [emoji66]

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[tgirlamg]

..now what? ??

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Hi JJ....

I am sorry you are finding yourself in a difficult part of life's journey...  These sections require determination and fortitude but all situations can be successfully navigated if that is our true desire... These are the times that allow us the greatest insight into who we are and what is most important to us as well as opportunities for spiritual growth...

" now what? "... Now, gather your thoughts and chose where you want to be in your life..  Point yourself in that direction and start taking the steps to get there... I don't know the details of your current situation but, if the meth use you have mentioned before is a factor in all this, I would advise you to address that first and foremost.... I speak to you as a survivor of 14 years of heavy meth abuse, now 22 years free, and believe me when I say that it can be put in your rear view mirror if that is what you want.... Our true life lies beyond slavery to the slow self destruction of drugs... If I can be of help on this front, please don't hesitate to PM me!!!

Onward we go brave sister!!!!

Ashley

[tgirlamg]

Good Morning JJ

I'm just thinking about you and hoping the day brings illumination to your path forward!.... I'm here if you want to talk..

Onward we go

Ashley