Wanted: small steps to look the slightest bit more feminine for an AMAB

[Dena]

But I really need to do something now about the dang hair on my face.

All it takes is time and money however it's worth it. I have a few escapes that have appeared over the years and I am considering having something done to them. It's only about a dozen hairs but every few weeks I have to find them and take care of them.

[AnneK]

I found having both ears pierced  and some onyx  studs put in made me feel good they are unisex so they are borderline  females love them and the men at work don't seem to put attention  on them....

I started wearing gold ear studs full time years ago.  Nail polish too.  I've had a some compliments from women about my studs and several about my nail polish, most recently from a customer last week.

[Tessa James]

Thanks for all the advice everyone.

I was basically on cloud 9 all day today, and I did shave my arms, but I'll consider other options as the hair grows back.  As it is, walking outdoors, even wearing clearly male clothes (but very colorful!), the lack of hair on the arms made me feel really, really good.  I had an ear-to-ear grin all day.  I doubt anyone noticed much about me, but *I* noticed!  Having such a weight off my shoulders and actually liking something about my body made me feel just wonderful.

But I definitely have to do something about my facial hair. I don't know if I'll do HRT or not (honestly I'm a lot more open to it and the more feminine side of possibilities now that a weight has been lifted).  But I really need to do something now about the dang hair on my face.

If you have mostly darker beard hair then laser is what I would suggest...it may take a few sessions.  Love that cloud 9 feeling and recall about 8 months of euphoria after accepting myself and giving up on the man act.  I truly did not recognize how much effort I had put into the act and the hiding till it was over.  Congratulations on your progress.

[ToriJo]

It's amazing how disclosing a bit and being honest with myself changes things. And I'm definitely confused as heck, trying to figure out who I am.

But now I'm leaning more MTF. I spent a lot of time talking to my wife, with her asking some pointed (and valid questions) and some serious contemplation on my side - where is my destination? How do I want to be.

I really appreciate the help on this topic - it's really helped me and helped with confidence to figure out who I am, and I appreciate being believed (even if I was still trying to tell myself that there was a path other than the one I know I need to go down). I'll be changing my name on the forums and moving over to other sections - thanks in part to the support here. I wish everyone here happiness and joy!

[Kendra]

Slanan I believe the credit was earned by you, for taking the initiative to think about this and post what was so difficult.  And then carefully considering real-world experiences and taking action based on what fits you the best.  Awesome.