Feminizing my home

[suzannemarie]

This is an odd question for any girl who has transitioned but can anyone be able to give me insight into redecorating my home to make it look like somewhere a woman would be living ? Right now place is typically drab male.

[AlyssaJ]

I've had to do the same with my bedroom.  I'd recommend searching pinterest.  Look for specific rooms like "Women's bedroom" or "feminine bathroom".  It gave me lots of great style ideas.

[JamieLee]

I'd second looking through Pinterest. It's one of the greatest sources for inspiration you'll find (I like "feminine bedroom" and "chic bedroom" searches). There are some good DIY YouTube videos as well. It's also helpful if you work out what your favourite colours are, and then what complimentary colours work with them so you can work on a colour theme for your rooms

Personally, I added an upholstered headboard to my bed and bought high thread count bed sheets and a new doona cover set that matched my current aesthetic, all of which made me feel very happy to buy as they're not things I would usually do in boy-mode

[staciM]

This is an odd question for any girl who has transitioned but can anyone be able to give me insight into redecorating my home to make it look like somewhere a woman would be living ? Right now place is typically drab male.

Aren't you a woman?  Design it in a way that makes you happy.  What colours/textures/patterns do you prefer.  That's where you start.

[Julia1996]

 Is this redecorating something you want to do or is it something you feel like you're supposed to do? No one is going take away your hrt medications if you have a drab apartment. Don't worry about how you think a feminine apartment "should" look like and go with what you actually like. You're the one who will have to look at it everyday.
Julia

[Megan.]

When I moved into my current home I wasn't out, so i decorated the downstairs rooms in a very neutral style so eyebrows didn't get raised. But in my bedroom i went to more feminine upholstery and linens and wall art.

[FinallyMichelle]

I guess that I thought about it early on. For the most part my apartment was not decorated male but I debated for a bit, should I go from non-gender specific to uber feminine? In the end I just let it go. My reason to transition was to be myself, no more lies or illusions and my apartment was already like that. There were a lot of things like that and I had to ask myself if I was exchanging one act for another. The things that would out me I worked on and the things that would not I let go. That being said 😁 there WERE things that I always wanted to do or whatever that were feminine that I spent so much of my life avoiding that, before I even came out fully to everyone, I just let go and became myself. My favorite comment during that time was, "Dude, you are not even making an effort to act like a guy anymore. Could you at least try to not sound like my wife." 😆

Who are you? This question we ask over and over in our lives and we adjust over and over. For most people it is just a question that has been asked and decided for so long that what you see is what you get. For us it is something that we have had to start over again. For me specifically I started over again at where I originally was forced away from the path that I was on. I don't have to be more a girl or more feminine than anyone else, just more me that I have ever allowed myself to be before.

Lol, all of that I just said and it still too forever and many changes before I hit the outfit that I wore to the horse races last night. 😁 Soooooo....  appearances are important.  😉 Don't tell anyone, kay.

Michelle

[Harley Quinn]

I went 1920s 1930s. But its always been my style. Think "Golden Age of Hollywood".  The 50s are cool too, but a little too busy for home. Now to find a place to put all my furniture so I can have my trailer back!

[Sarah_P]

I'm going to pretty much have to completely change all my decor when I eventually move. Not because of the move, but because almost 95% of my decor is anime collectibles & posters, and I'm going to be selling as much of it as I can (fingers crossed) to fund the move & transitioning.
Now that I've finally accepted my femininity, I'd like my decor to match.

[Charlotte F]

For me, a home is a space that should reflect the personality of the person/people that live there

Drab interiors are not the sole domain of men, plenty of women also live in overly neutral spaces devoid of any objects or items of interest - that's why there are so many interior designers out there!

If you want to add some feminine touches to your place, why not start by just adding some objects that express your personality and your new style.  If you already have a neutral colour scheme, start by adding some cushions or a throw to a sofa.  Go for brighter colours or something with texture.  Maybe buy a vase or two and try adding some flowers or plants - these also add life & fragrance to a space.  Candles and room diffusers also let you give fragrance to a room plus can create a relaxed, ambient atmosphere at night.  Then add some photo frames with pictures of things you like, places you've been or people that are special in your life

Just a few small changes on a very limited budget will make your home feel much more personal to you and consequently it should naturally appear more feminine

Of course if you want to go for a more full-on refurb of your house then there are loads of good websites out there.  Pinterest is great (like the others suggest) but there's also Homify and Houzz which both have loads of inspirational shots

[suzannemarie]

Hi Julia,

this is something I am wanting to do since now deciding on transitioning. I looked around my place a few days ago thinking this won't do. I need to add some colour !!

[elkie-t]

If your windows don't have curtains (only shadows), consider adding them as your first priority. If they have but if a drab/neutral color, think about replacing them with something nice and flowery. I'd assume you have nice light paint on the walls already, but maybe if you haven't repainted them last two-three years, it might be a good time to fresh up the rooms. When was the last time you washed outside part of your windows? Some nice paintings on the walls... Keeping everything neat and well-organized, vacuumed and dusted, goes a long way too.


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[myraey]

Do the thing you thought about doing before but didn't because of keeping up appearances. I am still into pretty drab.

[OU812]

Do the thing you thought about doing before but didn't because of keeping up appearances. I am still into pretty drab.

This. Just be you.

(Alright, a suggestion. Early on when I had no money for anything, I printed out like 30 B&W portraits of favorite musicians, inspirations, crushes etc. and taped them all over the concrete walls in my 1-room dorm. It helped.)

[Wild Flower]

All my rooms look grungy before I describe my current room, by grungy it looks like it has no planned look, bare essential items, thrift store items, and 90s drifter look. Not clean, sharp, or sophisticated looking. (people even say it looks messy)

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I don't really decorate my room at the moment, but there's a lot of dark colours with strong maroons, burgundy, browns, and rose colors (not red). Imagery of the sky, moon, set in black. I'm also a Catholic witch, so I have the Virgin Mary and a picture of Jesus, with some other imagery (based in Christianity theology but not exactly good or saintly). I practice both left and right hand magick. I prefer the antique look, medieval look, and new age. It has a feminine feel though, but that's not from planning it, it just is what it is.

I have an alter too, with tarot cards on the wall, and gemstones, and a scrying ball.

If I had to describe my room with a title it would be "hidden renaissance/mystical gypsy queen room based in Christianity". My room also changes based on my feelings. I had a room full of Halloween decorations at one point, not so much now, but my antique lamp (pure glass with a metal stem attached to the light ball) is covered with purple Halloween-décor lights. That's my favorite holiday really, because it is both pagan and Christian combined; pagans created it, but it became Christian based because it's the day to respect the dead and such... as a celebration of life of the ones who gone before us, and as a way to not to mourn for death or fear it.

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These are not my room, but it has a similar feeling walking inside my room.

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[Lyric]

I think there are some of us who are hopelessly home decor agnostic. For folks like us the best way to go is to ask a friend or pro to come in and help with a room makeover. There are people who utterly love doing that sort of thing (not me, though).

[elkie-t]

I think it's simple. Start with windows (thorough cleanup inside and outside + curtains). That alone brightens your rooms. From there, depending on your budget....


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[Lucy Ross]

Here's another thread:  How have you feminized your bedroom?

Look up images of 'Jayne Mansfield mansion,' then dial it back about 97%.     Her husband was Mr. Universe, on one site someone wondered how he could live there and not go stark raving bonkers. 

Jack Parr:  "Ladies and gentlemen, here they are...Jayne Mansfield."     She was a Mensa member and excellent violinist, too.  Amazing lady.

[Lady Sarah]

Select a color scheme. Furniture, drapes, curtains, rugs, etc... should follow this scheme.
Do you collect things? If you have a collection of figurines, you can display them in a fashion typical of how a woman displays her collection. Surely, you must have been to the homes of other women, and seen how their homes looked.

[davina61]

The rented flat I have is of course painted beige with oat meal carpets and not allowed to paint or hang pictures so got some patterned curtains , dark red and grey shapes (bit like xmas tree burbles) on an oat mealish back ground ,matching cushions on sofa and a red scatter rug. bed room has a sage greenish theme (same boring walls and carpet) and curtains have a splash of red, kitchen has a red patterned (cooking stuff) blind , red handled tools and a red light shade in hall, O yes and red place mats and condiment set on dining table (pine!!) BTW did I say I like red?