Correctly gendered for the first time!!

[Jenny94]

Hi lovelies. I'm feeling happy at the moment so I'm just gonna....blaaaaaa

So, I'm presenting female full-time at the moment, I don't really know what I'm doing with make-up yet so I just do enough light/shade/blush and mascara that I can look in the mirror without wanting to throw up. I wear flowing tops, well-fitting girl jeans and converse. Anyway. You can tell it's a man's face, but also that I'm trying to be female, and my hair helps. So, I don't "pass", but I'm pretty clearly a transgender woman, or at least cross-dressing.

ANYWAY. I was walking down the street in Glastonbury, a super hippy town, with my mum and sis. There was a little boy in my way, so I was just waiting for him to move over - and his dad said, "Come on, let the girl...let the girl past." And I was the only person that needed to get past! Okay, hesitation, but I don't care. Biggest f%$&ing beamiest smile on my face as I turned to him and said thank you.

Just feels like a vindication that what I'm doing does actually make me look different, and though I don't "pass" (again, inverted commas as I find the term a bit urgh), people can actually see what I'm trying to do. I got misgendered later on by some idiot, but actually, I didn't let him get to me, because he's not important today.

Would love to hear of similar experiences from the rest of you! ^___^

L x

[KathyLauren]

Yes getting gendered correctly is a wonderfully affirming experience.

My first time was in a jewellery store.  I had dropped off a ring that I wanted made into a pendant a couple of weeks earlier, as my old male self.  I went to pick it up as my new female self.  The lady behind the counter said, "Oh, sorry, he'll have to come in to sign for it himself."  After I explained that it was just me, she was very apologetic.  But I said, "Don't apologize, you just made my day!" 

[StacyRenee]

I went out for dinner with a  female friend of mine last week after attending a support  group meeting with me. The waitress asked "What would you ladies like to drink? " and later "Have you ladies decided what you want? " I was over the moon and couldn't stop smiling. My friend commented she hasn't seen me that happy in a long time.

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[Tommie_9]

Yaaaay! Leila! Yes, it feels awesome having your female gender affirmed by others! You'll have many, many more as you get better at presenting female with more practice. Your confidence will grow and it will show. Confidence is very sexy, right!!? I've only been presenting fully female in public for about four months, but I've already found that as a woman other women are friendlier and more talkative to me, and men smile at us girls and give us the "right of way" in the aile or on the sidewalk a lot more than I realized. My biggest thrill came two weeks ago at the supermarket when I was flirted with by two men, once in the bread aile and again as I pushed the shopping cart to my car. I must've nailed the hot girl look that day. I imagine a lot of women hate this kind of uninvited attention, but as a transgender girl I love it. I live in a culturally backward area in the southern USA, so when I go shopping or run errands around town, I just hope I don't get mocked or beat up. Affirmation is very satisfying. You go, girl!
Tommie

[RobynD]

Congrats! I wish i remembered or had journaled the first time i was gendered correctly. Its an amazing feeling and even after a couple of years when i hear things like "What would you ladies like this evening?", it makes my heart sing.

[Rachel]

Awesome, I am happy for you.

[~Alexis~]

My first time being correctly gendered was a coupple of weeks ago. I had gotten out of the car and was walking inside when my sister and a friend of hers pulled up. Apparently her friend was like: "who is that girl going in your house?" and when she told me about it I was like super giddy

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[Janes Groove]

Wonderful!  You'll remember this one for awhile.

And congratulations Alexis too! 


I remember my first time.  I was all like, "NO WAY.  That dude couldn't have been talking to me!"

[KathyLauren]

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