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Started by AlyssaJ, August 22, 2017, 01:54:31 PM

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Ciriantares

Well from everything I read from your post you seem to have gone the proper route & in some ways a similar one that I also took on Facebook. Although the difference for me is I created an entirely new profile a couple years before my transition and I decided to transition to that newer profile then continue to use my own. Though in many ways I didn't have a choice partly because of how well known I was in my chosen profession & a certain Baltimore TERF who targeted me directly. ( Most people already know who I'm reffering to)


My advice is keep doing what your doing & go at Your own pace that you feel comfortable with. I'm nearing 30 months into my HRT & just hit the 2 year mark since I went full time and I'm still slowly staggering friends in from those that knew me before I transitioned. I've found that nearly everyone has been very supportive though there were a quite a few that were not. 

You're in the process of doing one of the biggest steps in your early transition & so hang in there as it can get pretty emotional at times.  Sending hugs and good thoughts/prayers your way for continued success Alyssa! 


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Jessica_Nicole

Congrats on the big step and thanks for sharing the photos.  You look great!  Hope to follow in the future and make all of those big steps that you have.
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p

I am considering taking this step myself, and I found your post super helpful--you took some really great steps that I am adding to my plan. +1 reputation from me!
Patti

Something is off - 2016-17
Out to husband - 2/14/17
Full-time - 3/9/17
HRT - 6/14/17
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AlyssaJ

OK, I spoke to at least one person via PM that felt it would be helpful if I shared the post that I made for coming out on Facebook.  So in case this is helpful or interesting to anyone else, I'm posting it here.  This is the message I posted on my male Facebook profile last Thursday:

QuoteThis is a very difficult post for me to write and it's going to be long, please read it through to the end. I would like to announce something life changing that may come as a shock you. For most of my life, I've been silently struggling with significant discomfort, anxiety and depression regarding my gender identity. I have even, at times, considered suicide as a result of the denial and repression. With the help of a therapist, I've recently come to terms with the fact that I am transgender and I have begun the process of transitioning to living as a woman. Come November, I will begin living full-time as Alyssa Jean Miller.

So far, my parents, children, siblings, and a number of very close friends with whom I've shared my transition, have been very supportive. I also have the support of a large faith community as well as my employer. I will face many challenges on this journey and the support of the wonderful people in my life has been and will be invaluable.

I realize for many of you, I may be the first transgender person you've ever known. You've likely seen transsexuality sensationalized or treated as a punch line in popular culture. You've certainly witnessed attempts by some to dehumanize and label people like me as perverts or sub-human. However, you may not have had much exposure to the medical and scientific knowledge of gender identity let alone to the realities of life as a transgender person. For this reason I hope you can keep an open mind and understand that my decision to transition was neither easy nor hasty. I welcome any respectful questions you have regarding my transition.

I've recently trimmed down my friends list on Facebook. Those I've kept are people that I consider an important part of my life and I wanted you to hear about this directly from me. In the near future, I will be deactivating this Facebook account. I have created a new profile and if you would like to remain connected with me through Facebook, please either reply to this post or send me a personal message.

I truly hope that all of you will continue to be a part of my life going forward, but I understand that for some this could be too much or in conflict with your personal beliefs. If that is the case, I simply ask that you be respectful and just unfriend me. I've accepted that eventuality and wish you all the best if that is your choice.

Thank you all for your consideration, your friendship and your support. I'm confident with my amazing friends and family standing behind me, I can successfully navigate this difficult path and be successful.

With deepest love, Alyssa
"I want to put myself out there, I want to make connections, I want to learn and if someone can get something out of my experience, I'm OK with that, too." - Laura Jane Grace

What's it like to transition at mid-life?  http://transitionat40.com/



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Rachel_Christina

Congrats Alyssa.
I have to do my coming out on Facebook in December.
I can't wait, though I know I will spend some time looking at that "post" button lol


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RobynD

What a fantastic coming out message and a wonderful transition. I'm so happy for you. This is why so many people call us brave :) We certainly have our moments of that don't we.

Also some of the friends may take time to process it and still add you and be in your life. That happened in my case.


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AlyssaJ

Quote from: Rachel_Christina on August 25, 2017, 02:16:50 PM
Congrats Alyssa.
I have to do my coming out on Facebook in December.
I can't wait, though I know I will spend some time looking at that "post" button lol

If you're anything like me, there will be a slight moment of panic after you do it and then you'll say to yourself, well it's out there now :)  You got this Christina, you've got an amazingly supportive partner, you've shown time and again in your posts the level of strength you have.  It takes some courage to click that little blue rectangle, but I'm sure when the time comes you'll be ready.

Robyn, thanks for that, I'm hoping that's the case with a few of them.  Some I couldn't care less about but there were a couple I hoped would stand by me that so far have not.  Only time will tell.
"I want to put myself out there, I want to make connections, I want to learn and if someone can get something out of my experience, I'm OK with that, too." - Laura Jane Grace

What's it like to transition at mid-life?  http://transitionat40.com/



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p

Wow, your post is really wonderful--thanks for sharing this as a resource for the community!
Patti

Something is off - 2016-17
Out to husband - 2/14/17
Full-time - 3/9/17
HRT - 6/14/17
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TonyaW

Quote from: Rachel_Christina on August 25, 2017, 02:16:50 PM
Congrats Alyssa.
I have to do my coming out on Facebook in December.
I can't wait, though I know I will spend some time looking at that "post" button lol
God I hesitated over the send button for at least 2 minutes when I sent my coming out email to my mom and siblings.  No panic right afterward but actually a sense of relief. 

Not sure about when or if a public coming out on Facebook.  First,  I don't think I have a decent picture to post with it.  Second reason is much of my wife's family does not know and my wife would rather they don't find out that way.  I changed my name to just my initials and the personal stuff about gender etc but for now that's set to only I can see.

Congrats Alyssa. 

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Denise

Quote from: AlyssaJ on August 25, 2017, 02:09:14 PM
OK, I spoke to at least one person via PM that felt it would be helpful if I shared the post that I made for coming out on Facebook.  So in case this is helpful or interesting to anyone else, I'm posting it here.  This is the message I posted on my male Facebook profile last Thursday:
That was perfect.  I wish I had done something like that.  The only difference was I didn't hesitate.  I was Sooooooo ready to stop living a double life.

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Restarted Estradiol Valerate: 02-Nov-2016
Full time: 02-Mar-2017
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LizK

Quote from: AlyssaJ on August 25, 2017, 02:09:14 PM
OK, I spoke to at least one person via PM that felt it would be helpful if I shared the post that I made for coming out on Facebook.  So in case this is helpful or interesting to anyone else, I'm posting it here.  This is the message I posted on my male Facebook profile last Thursday:

I loved it...you said what needed and said it with authority and poise.
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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Myranda

Alyssa,  Congratulations!  That is a huge hurdle and you handled it with poise and finesse. And thank you for sharing your Facebook coming out post, I know it will help a lot of people.

I just hope that if and when my dy comes, that I can handle it with at least a fraction of the class and thought that you did.


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