Dysphoria and Worrying about my future.

[GraysonIsVeryConfused]

I've felt really dysphoric lately. More than usual. I think since I've recently accepted the fact that I'm trans has made my dysphoria worse. Since I know that it's Dysphoria now. Does anyone have any advice on coping with that?

I've also felt super worried about my future. I would love to go on T. Yet. The career path I wish to join is voice acting. I've never really felt comfortable with my high-pitched voice. Yet, I have a good vocal range and a strong voice that is good at portraying emotion. I'm afraid if I go on t my voice could deteriorate. I don't want to risk a possible successful career path. What do I do?

[lilpinkdragon]

Could be worse, becoming a woman with a voice like Barry white and Isaac Hayes, t will help lower voice naturally and there is no guideline on the correct masculine voice, just the identity and the persona of the individual it is presented from. Coaching is avalible, but in the end, just be the beautiful human you are and the world will accept you. If they don't, that is their problem. ;-)

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[Deborah]

The only thing that ever worked for me to subdue dysphoria for a while was to focus all my energy on running.  So I ran a lot every day and then ran some more.  I ran short races and I ran marathons.  Eventually after about two years I added heavy weight training on top of that and shortly after crashed with chronic exhaustion and overtraining.  Then the dysphoria came back with a vengeance.

Maybe that would work for you too without the exhaustion part.  You would need to do enough to occupy your mind and energy but not so much you fall off the cliff.


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[KathyLauren]

Once the cat is out of the bag, there's no getting it back in.  The only successful strategies I have heard of for dealing with dysphoria are either to suck it up and live with it or to transition.  There may be partial transition options that reduce the dysphoria to bearable levels.  This is something for you to investigate.

T will most likely change your voice.  I say "most likely" because i know of at least one very frustrated trans man who has been on T for a while yet whose voice refuses to drop.

However, most trans men, once they start T, find that their voice drops quickly to typical male pitch.  I am sure that the demand is just as high for male voice actors as it is for female voices.  You would likely have to change your repertoire or your role choices, but it shouldn't prevent pursuing your chosen career.

[Kylo]

It's been worse for me knowing what has caused my problems for certain than assuming like I did before that it was all a character flaw. The only way is forward though, you just have move on after acceptance toward being the person you are most comfortable as.

If you don't currently have a career in voice acting, I wouldn't worry so much. You're not going to be out of a job unless you already have a job. T will most likely change your voice but may not destroy your range at all but rather shift it. If you already have a good range and practice frequently, you'll probably be able to adapt it after it finally settles down into a stable form.

As someone who likes acting myself, there is a problem with transition in many respects and it will involve waiting it out until you fit better with your voice into the roles expected. Could be better to get transition out of the way before you go into the field of acting or voice acting than halfway through perhaps. At 11 months in my voice has finally settled down and I haven't lost too much of my original mid range, but gained a lot in the lower scale. Practicing a variety of accents and it sounds pretty good. It's the 2nd/3rd to 6 month in mark where the voice seems to be at it's most unstable and doesn't gain traction in the lower range until after that.

[widdershins]

T is kind of a crap shoot in terms of voice quality, the same as it is with cis male puberty. The range and timbre of my own voice ended up improving (though the pitch is lower, obviously.) I actually get compliments on my speaking voice from strangers now! But I also know a couple other guys who had lovely singing voices that got wrecked. If you've had vocal training, you'll be able to make the most of what you get, but in the end you're still limited by what your biology throws at you.

In terms of dealing with dysphoria, it's a process, really. You slowly learn to change the things you have the power to change and accept some of the things you can't. Try experimenting with whatever aspect of your behavior or appearance seems like it'd be easiest for you to tackle. Even seeing small improvements helps, especially early on.

[JoanneB]

Knowledge is Power

You Know you are trans
You Know it is driving the Dysphoria

Yet, you are giving it power. Power to control your life.

Which PAIN is Worse?

God knows how much this basso-profondo would love to have a cute little squeaky voice. That this 6ft tall monster was a cute 5'6"  (I'm willing to compromise) tall. That I had long flowing hair, rather then balding since 14.

I also know I NEED to balance every aspect of who and what I am. The Male, The Female. The rule bound person. My inner anarchist. My "Go along to get along" vs the "F' em all"as well as all those of the those other needs and wants of other SO's in my life.

As was said before me 'T' will change your voice. Of God will it   

Are there "Other things" you can do? OK  Beyond Stuff, Bury, Ignore, Distract, Deny. All those things you tried before to no avail?

What is truly important For You To BE You?  Only you can answer that.

I still find this one simple question speaks all the truth you need to know.... and... need to follow 

Which PAIN is worse?