I'm too big!!

[Gertrude]

I am originally 6' 5" now down to 6'3 and shrinking. My highest weight was 296 lbs. I now hover around 220 lbs. It really was not hard to lose weight. I quit drinking soda and eating bread and instead of eating a bag of Famous Amos Cookies I now settle for one or two cookies. I cut serving sizes. Instead of eating two pork chops I now eat one,Plus a little exercise never hurts.

Deborah turned on to the ketogenic diet. I've lost 43lbs in 11 weeks. I eat 2373ish calories a day, 176g fat, 30g carbs and 168g protein. At least those are the targets. So far so good. I'm not a treataholic, just used to each too much and too many carbs.


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[Bari Jo]

I have been reading this thread with interest.  I'm not tall, but feel for you.  At breakfast today there was a cis female that was probably 6'2" and also a very high forehead.  She was maybe 27 too.  I wanted to take a picture and post, but it would have looked weird asking.  Anyway, was thinking of my girls here.  You'd be empowered seeing this girl.

[DawnOday]

I'm 6ft and it sucks, it's the main reason why I don't proceed with anything like therapy because I think what's the point, literally all my other body proportions are fine, I have pretty small feet for a guy, people have even pointed it out to be before when I had to size up for an old job which required steel toecap boots.

I've browsed this site before - https://www.celebheights.com/s/180Female.html

You put in your height and it tells you which celebrities are the same height as you.

I'd probably be fine with 5'10 but you can't change your height... people tell me I am lucky to be 6ft because it's the height that most men want to be, still cringe every time friends call me "big guy" 

Jenny Fitch 6' 1"  not only the best female softball pitcher ever, the girl is just gorgeous. Maria Sharapova is 6'2" another looker with 5 grand slam wins. Jane Lynch is 6' TV star and comedian. http://bleacherreport.com/articles/661081-top-50-hottest-tall-chicks-in-sports.

[CarlyMcx]

I'm 6ft and it sucks, it's the main reason why I don't proceed with anything like therapy because I think what's the point, literally all my other body proportions are fine, I have pretty small feet for a guy, people have even pointed it out to be before when I had to size up for an old job which required steel toecap boots.

I've browsed this site before - https://www.celebheights.com/s/180Female.html

You put in your height and it tells you which celebrities are the same height as you.

I'd probably be fine with 5'10 but you can't change your height... people tell me I am lucky to be 6ft because it's the height that most men want to be, still cringe every time friends call me "big guy" 

Like I said in a prior post, my cisgender baby sister (6 years younger than me) is 5 feet 11 and 3/4.inches tall.  That's right, she is a quarter inch under six feet.  She rarely dresses feminine, never wears makeup, and works on cars for fun.  She has never been misgendered.  Height has little to do with how you are gendered.

[staciM]

......Height has little to do with how you are gendered.

Although I agree with this, I also believe that others aspects have to be more "polished" in order to be gendered properly.  Think of it as starting the race a little behind the pack....your facial features, hair, body shape, walk and voice all have to be more on point to overcome your height when compared to a transitioning woman that is of average CIS-female stature.  The above average height will probably put you under increased scrutiny and the other aspects  are much more important.

[Rowena_Ellenweorc]

Although I agree with this, I also believe that others aspects have to be more "polished" in order to be gendered properly.  Think of it as starting the race a little behind the pack....your facial features, hair, body shape, walk and voice all have to be more on point to overcome your height when compared to a transitioning woman that is of average CIS-female stature.  The above average height will probably put you under increased scrutiny and the other aspects  are much more important.

I agree with this. I fully expect a lot of misgendering when I transition/change my pronouns in every day life, because of my short stature.  However I see it with my daughter more since at present, I still present as female to everyone in my life. (Despite the short hair and dressing more masculine)

She's pint sized... At the age of 2.5 she still averages out to wearing 9 month tops and 12 month pants. And she has short hair.  People seem to think she's a  1 year old little boy. The only way I've gotten her correctly gendered is if I put her in pink and frills.  And even then, people get it wrong.  Don't ask me why.

Its all about societal perception of gender norms, which really I hate.  Why should we be pressured into 'these things are for females' or 'these things are for males'?  Frankly, I just wish the world would stop assigning gender norms.  Definitely would help us slightly with the dysphoria.

Its okay to be a tall girl.
Its okay to be a short boy.
Its okay to be somewhere inbetween...

Etc.

[Jenny94]

She's pint sized... At the age of 2.5 she still averages out to wearing 9 month tops and 12 month pants. And she has short hair.  People seem to think she's a  1 year old little boy. The only way I've gotten her correctly gendered is if I put her in pink and frills.  And even then, people get it wrong.  Don't ask me why.

Whaaaaa. Why would people even gender a 2 year old? I can't believe that children that young even have a gender...?

[rmaddy]

People gender their children before they are born.  Parents often say they want to find out the sex so that they can paint the nursery "the right colors" and buy the "right toys" before their little bundle of joy is born.  Not only that, but mother's speak to their unborn babies in higher voices if they think they are girls, and are more likely to describe the kicks of boys as "strong".  I don't think we know when gender solidifies for children, but they are being pressed to conform to expectation before they take their first breath.

[Jenny94]

Well yeah, plenty of people do that excessive gendering before the baby is born, but like...those people are idiots. The intelligent people I know painted their baby's room green, bought them "both" sets of toys, stuff like that. That said, I don't know how to reconcile that with the need to "know" while it's still in the womb. If it doesn't matter, why do they need to know? Maybe I overestimate people.

[rmaddy]

Maybe I overestimate people.

Fastest route to disappointment.

[JoanneB]

I'm 6ft and a former fatty.  Portion control worked great for me. Eating S-L-O-W-L-Y and, of course avoid thing things like 1000 cal a cookie cookies for snacks worked great for me to be 1/2 the person I was.  I still cannot walk a bakery and breath too deeply for fear of gaining 5 lbs. As long as I can hold my breath, I can still drool a little looking into the window 

[Ryuichi13]

...The intelligent people I know painted their baby's room green, bought them "both" sets of toys, stuff like that.

I did that with my kid. 

The only pink she had as a baby was a cute dress I saw and fell in lovd with, and when she outgrew it, I still didn't really dress her in gendered clothes much.  It was my (ex)MiL and my Mom that got her baby "girl clothes."

Now she's a girly girl, and happy.  I'm happy for her, but I'm still glad that once she got old enough, I let her pick her clothes styles.

Ryuichi

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[MeTony]

My best friend (cis woman) is 6,1 feet. There are big women too. It's not about height, it's about presentation. How do you move? Mannerism? Something mysterious is making her female, I've tried to compare and see the differance between us, but I don't know how to be female, because I never was. I have tried when I denied being trans gender. But failed misserably. People gendered me male even when I tried being female.

[MeTony]

Well yeah, plenty of people do that excessive gendering before the baby is born, but like...those people are idiots. The intelligent people I know painted their baby's room green, bought them "both" sets of toys, stuff like that. That said, I don't know how to reconcile that with the need to "know" while it's still in the womb. If it doesn't matter, why do they need to know? Maybe I overestimate people.

I was born female. I got girly toys and cloths. In the beginning. I did not touch that stuff when I grew consious about my surroundings. I was a boy. I played boy games and never ever wore girly cloths to daycare or school or at home. My grandmother was chocked. But that's me. My parents stopped nagging about being pretty early on.

I wore a dress when I finnished high school. Just to make my mom happy.

[Rowena_Ellenweorc]

I actually wrote something about the 'stupidity' (my thoughts... hence the quotation marks) on 'gender reveal' parties and how they should be ACTUALLY called 'sex reveal' parties. Went into the difference between sex and gender.  Blah blah blah. Frankly, having grown up a 'tomboy' most of my life, I've never really liked the whole, 'Girls get pink and dolls etc' and 'Boys get blue, and cars and trucks etc.'  They are freakin' babies. They don't care.  Its the adults who care.
So we did learn the sex of our kids, though with both of them, it wasn't very clear until we had a couple ultrasounds (not to determine gender.  My pregnancies were rough... and that's the understatement of the century).

Frankly, the reason my kids have anything gendered is because a) most of their clothes are hand me downs b) husband started out with the idea my little boy couldn't have anything 'girly' [I had to kick his butt, figuratively speaking, I kid you not when he didn't want to buy the kid a pink sippy cup. It's a sippy cup for heaven's sake.].

As for my daughter, I kid you not the only reason she has ANYTHING pink is because almost all her clothes are handmedowns. I hate the color pink. With a passion. And you know what her favorite things are?  Anything that is deemed for her brother.  I buy both my kids stuffed animals, cars trucks, etc. Because that's just what they like.  Neither one of them give a crap about dolls, so I think we have maybe... one doll that the hospital or some random person gave my daughter... never gets played with.  (She does like shoes way more than necessary though hahaha. Ironically, her brother's more than hers)

Edit: Apparently I like the words 'Frankly' and 'I kid you not a little too much LOL

[Kylo]

I wonder how women like Gwendoline Christie deal with it. She towers over 90% of people, men included. Yet, most people don't look negatively at her for it. I guess she just owns it and gets on with her life, being who she wants to be.

[Gertrude]

I think it's easier when humans are socialized into their assigned and aligned from birth. For us, we are doing it after the fact and have to overcome our socialization and society's reaction. If one lives in SF or the village it's probably easier than Biloxi or Birmingham.


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[Summer]

Can't change your height gf you just rock been a tall woman.
I'm 6"1 and has issues with it at the start now I own it


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[Cara_DarkCloud]

If you take a look at the long tall sally website and brows through the product reviews by customers. Each predominantly female customer has a profile and it's surprising how many have larger feet than me (size 12) and are taller (im 6'1) which makes you think well if they have lived with it all their life then so can I.

[Sno]

No, sweetheart, you're Amazonian


Rowan