My father is from Arkansas and he was real good at that creepy, smarmy fake supportive "frenemy" thing. He suffered a massive stroke a few years before I transitioned so we never had that fight but -- read on:
He had a long history of acting interested then undermining me on just about every hobby I ever had from model airplanes to building hot rods.
He was constantly into my love life from the time I was 14 until I married, then constantly pressured me to have children, then stuck himself back in my love life when I got divorced. He tried to stop me from marrying my wife (we've been married 17 years this December) and after I married her he renewed the pressure to have children even though we don't want any.
Even though I butch up to visit him in the facility where they keep hi, he keeps staring at me and mad dogging me (he is intelligent and aware but half paralyzed and cannot speak).
After I finished college he pressured me to move back in with him and mom and go to law school. If I had stayed on my own, got a teaching credential, I might have been able to transition in 1987 or so.
Do not make a decision to move back in lightly especially where your parents want you back and don't want you to transition.
I made the mistake of showing some femininity when I was a child (5-7 years old) and I think that had a lot to do with why my dad was so controlling. So be careful. Be very very careful. If you meet with your parents do not go to their house. Meet them at a restaurant outside of their own neighborhood.
