Just wondering

[SophieKaleva]

Hello, I am Sophie, 19.I have been reading the forum since forever, but just now I made an account. I feel transgender from as little as 11 years old. Now that I live alone and have a stable job I can start right away with my transition.BUT.
I am wondering if I am really transgender. My concern is that I think about being a girl every minute of the day, but when I am aroused I crave about it like 100 times more.But the first 15 minutes after I cum I am not really sure is it all worth it.
After that its the same.Every minute.
Please, girls tell me if this is normal!

[Denise]

You will find many stories with the same theme, including my own.

Remember cis people don't think about it, ever.  I've talked to many who don't even understand the question.  The idea of not being their assigned gender is foreign and strange to them.

Your concern about having 100x the need while aroused is, in my opinion, not abnormal for trans people.

Consider this, the hormones that are racing in abundance while aroused makes the dysphoria that much worse.



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[Julia1996]

Hi sopihie, Im Julia. Welcome to the forum. I'm 19 as well. I didn't really understand what it is you're asking.

[SophieKaleva]

I am greatly concerned about the 15 minutes after I cum. I do not feel the need to transition. :/

[Julia1996]

Oh ok. Well I can't tell you if you need to transition , only you know that.  But the reason your Dysphoria might seem much less severe right after you cum is endorphins.  Orgasm releases a flood of endorphins. That's what causes "after glow". Endorphins act like opiates and under that influence everything seems much better and life doesn't seem so bad. But like any narcotic the effect wears off and when it does you still have the same feelings/problems that you had to start with.

[IzzyC]

I presume that since you seemed to make a differentiation between a constant state of dysphoria and the state before arousal that the thought itself does not necessarily cause arousal per se?

Like Julia said, endorphins will affect your immediate after arousal mind. I did the same thing as a teenager to avoid the fact I liked men, as odd as that sounds; convincing myself that because the thoughts temporarily abated after release it meant that I wasn't actually gay.

Getting off while thinking about being the other gender, or cross-dressing for example (from what I understand), doesn't necessarily mean you are not trans. Now, from what I understand, if the very act or thought of gender swapping in and of itself is arousing; that's possibly something different.

[SophieKaleva]

Thank you, girls. Julia, can I have your skype/facebook

[Julia1996]

Thank you, girls. Julia, can I have your skype/facebook
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Sure. My Facebook is Julia Anderson.

[SophieKaleva]

Thank you, girls. Julia, can I have your skype/facebook
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Sure. My Facebook is Julia Anderson.

What is your profile photo? Too many Julia Andersons

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[Julia1996]

What is your profile photo? Too many Julia Andersons
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I don't use a photo for Facebook. Just give me yours and I will friend you.

[SophieKaleva]

Send me profile url in PM's please

[esphoria]

Hi Sophia!

Like Julia said, you are really the only person that can tell if you are or are not trans. While I haven't personally experienced the regret after that doesn't mean it's abnormal, nor is it necessarily indicative either way. I do wonder if your feelings are clear or if the doubt could be a result of something else? There really aren't any right answers, but I find that quite often my feelings get crossed.

Trans is a rather inclusive term because Gender Dysphoria is a complex issue  as it has many social, biological, and identity components to it.  So what I may feel and is right for me won't be right for another trans person, but both positions are equally valid.

I would first try to figure out if your feelings are only sexual in nature or if there is more to it. I suspect they aren't only sexual but I found that eliminating the other possibilities made it much easier to accept for me in a Once you've eliminated the impossible whatever remains, however unlikely, must be the truth sorta way.

[JoanneB]

I am greatly concerned about the 15 minutes after I cum. I do not feel the need to transition. :/

Shame, Guilt and it's only about getting your rocks off.... Been there done that. It happens to many of us.

Knowing you are trans is easy. Where on the spectrum between cis-female and cis-male is not so easy to sort out.

Since you constantly think about being a girl, I tend to think it is not a case of "Just a CD". What is important is where YOU think you are on the spectrum. BTW - There is no rule that says If you are trans, you have to transition. The journey is what you want to make it. Actually, it is what you NEED to make it in order to manage your particular flavor of GD

[Bobbie LeAnn]

Being Transgender doesn't turn me on at all. It just feels like I am finally correcting a birth defect.  I don't get my rocks off on being a woman.

[Charlie Nicki]

From what I've seen and read, if you're thinking about it, there might something there. This is worth exploring with a therapist.

[SophieKaleva]

Can you reccommend me some good online therapists since I am from Bulgaria and we do not have any

[Charlie Nicki]

Can you reccommend me some good online therapists since I am from Bulgaria and we do not have any

My own therapist, located in Colombia, does online sessions and speaks English. Their website is www.liberarte.co (you can switch it to English on the upper right part of the screen).