Natural born woman in love with a transwoman

[Kayak3614]

Hi,
My partner and I moved in together almost two years ago.  I met her as a woman.  She's been out for 5 years now.  When were out and about (all the time, actually) I don't think of her as trans, but as a woman like me.  She's is currently taking the herbal route instead of HRT and surgery.  She is growing breasts and is beginning to get some curves, which I love!! 

I've always kinda been partial to being around other females....but not sexually attracted.  I am more tomboyish than feminine, in my opinion.  I don't wear dresses or makeup and very seldom wear jewelry.  I don't currently label myself, as I'm confused on to what my label would be. 

Our relationship outside the bedroom is the most wonderful I could ever have hoped to experience!  We are totally open and honest with each other and talk about all concerns!  She has told me that even as a man she never made the first move.  She's also told me that, as a man, she "sowed her wild oats" and physical intimacy doesn't mean anything to her.  I, however, really miss the closeness we shared early on but I don't want her to feel less of a lady (although she insists I make her feel more of a lady than she's ever felt).

Has anyone here got any suggestions?  Thank you so much for letting me share!!😊

[pligirl75]

Hi,
My partner and I moved in together almost two years ago.  I met her as a woman.  She's been out for 5 years now.  When were out and about (all the time, actually) I don't think of her as trans, but as a woman like me.  She's is currently taking the herbal route instead of HRT and surgery.  She is growing breasts and is beginning to get some curves, which I love!! 

I've always kinda been partial to being around other females....but not sexually attracted.  I am more tomboyish than feminine, in my opinion.  I don't wear dresses or makeup and very seldom wear jewelry.  I don't currently label myself, as I'm confused on to what my label would be. 

Our relationship outside the bedroom is the most wonderful I could ever have hoped to experience!  We are totally open and honest with each other and talk about all concerns!  She has told me that even as a man she never made the first move.  She's also told me that, as a man, she "sowed her wild oats" and physical intimacy doesn't mean anything to her.  I, however, really miss the closeness we shared early on but I don't want her to feel less of a lady (although she insists I make her feel more of a lady than she's ever felt).

Has anyone here got any suggestions?  Thank you so much for letting me share!![emoji4]

If you talk to her about what your missing she might be open to beginning with just you.  As a next step, try playing with her as if the plumbing is female....her first experience will set the stage for more enjoyable bedroom time for both.  However her hormones are kicking in and the male desire, frequency and drive diminish when the testosterone lowers... as a wife to a currently transitioning MTF, the experience you can have a two women when you are imitate as two women is amazing once you get your groove... you can also be selfish and ask for support in fulfilling your needs... it might spark her desire or just help you release your  urges and needs... I'm sure if you ask she will be eager to please... she is a woman and we all have tendencies to want to please even if we are not immediately interested for ourselves :-)

Good luck!


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[Jacqueline]

Kayak,

Welcome to the site. So sorry this is so late. I agree with the post sent to you. Talking about things is one of the best ways to stay on the same page. Get rid of misunderstandings easier too.

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[Kayak3614]

I just want to thank the two who responded!!  Since I posted this, we've talked at length about this.  When we are intimate I treat her as I would like to be......although she isn't into reciprocating that's ok.  I'm really trying to find other ways to be close to her...I've never had a woman partner before and physical intimacy was my tool for feeling close.  So, I just have to find other things that make us closer for the time being.....I'm aware that this awkwardness I'm feeling will not last forever!!😊  We are getting married next year and we are so looking forward to it!!!

Thanks again for the feedback!!!  P.S.  We both make each other's worlds much bigger!!  This is actually the healthiest relationship I've ever been in!!😀😀

[HappyMoni]

It sounds like you two have a great bond. Keep in mind, if she is just starting to find herself, she may evolve with time. Your loving attitude is awesome. Congrats on finding each other.
Moni