Hate slurs

[Tammy Jade]

So me and my wife went out tonight, we were having a great night, went to the Theater and saw one of her favourite comedians then went to the "pancake kitchen" for tea.

It was a really great night, until tea.
So it's about 10:30pm at the time and we were just finishing tea, the table next to us was the typical bogan family. Grumpy drunk husband, surly bitchy wife with 3 kids that had been throwing things and bumping into people all night.

Any who Ellie gets up and goes to the toilet and just after she leaves one of the kids starts acting up really badly throws stuff my direction and almost knocks out table over.

The idiot husband then proceeds to slap his wife and tell her to get the kids in line. So I am in shock at this point and by what I just witnessed so I kinda glare at him (huge mistake) he sees me glaring at me and then in a very loud voice (sorry mods if these are banned words) turns to me and says "what are you looking at you ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-ot" the whole place went quiet and I had quite a number of tables looking from him to me and back again. I was mortified and just sat there, I was amazed that I actually didn't breakdown in tears then and there. I couldn't bring myself to respond I just sat there like a idiot...

To top it off almost immediately he grabbed two of the kids by the shoulders and then the 5 of them did a dine and dash and ran out without paying.

I am really struggling with the feelings, Before HRT I would have got so angry and would have taken days to simmer down. But I just feel depressed it was so invalidating being called out in front of a whole restaurant like that.

I'm sorry for rambling but it's really shaken what confidence I had started to built, I was finally starting to feel like maybe I was getting passable. Early in the evening while we were waiting to get into the theatre I had queued for the women's toilet without any weird looks or comments and that had made me feel amazing but clearly Iv just been lieing to myself after tonight.

I'm just very shaken and maybe a little depressed, I don't know what to think.

Sorry
Again for rambling
- Mara


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[gv2002]

I so sorry that happened to you! I probably would of had the same reaction! Most people are not that way! You just were unfortunate to have been there to witness a ass first hand speak!


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[Laurie]

 Hi Tammy Jade

Yep, It's me Laurie. I noticed you were a bit concerned about what you could or could not say in your post. I do not know if you were aware of it, but if in doubt in the future you can always contact a staff member and run it by one of us. I do hope this helps you in the future. btw, I am not sure what auto transmissions and British meatballs have to do with each other. But to each their own.
  Oh I am sorry something as nasty as that happened to you. Some people just have their own problems and feel the need to share their misery.

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Rowena_Ellenweorc]

Oh hun!  I am sooooo sorry that happened to you! That's not okay!

I also feel bad for the wife and children.  I feel like the man just is one of those guys who its 'my way and only my way' from the sounds of the story.  I hope you don't take his words to heart too much, because he's just an idiot and a bunch of other words that aren't really good to post on this forum.  On the bright side, you most likely won't see him again.