Just joined today and received a lovely welcome from Ms. Laurie who encouraged me to introduce myself here. My first post is about male underwear advice:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,228525I'm a young adult woman with a passion for learning everything about everything, a Jill-of-all-trades, future crazy cat lady, outsider artist, a modern day "renaissance woman" of sorts. Some things I like: music, photography, techy/ geeky things, armchair science, Retro & Vintage culture, computer games... but to me there are no boring subjects! My whole life I've felt "outside the box", like an alien species that's been dropped onto Earth trying to figure out how to blend in and pass for human. For any Star Trek TNG fans here, I'm basically a female version of Data
For a long time I struggled with mental health issues which were finally diagnosed a couple years ago. The journey of coming to understand and manage the illness has also brought me to the best place yet of self-confidence and freedom to be my unique self in all respects. People have told me over the years that they think I'm wise for my age and a very good listener; I like to think that's the upside of having gone through my own struggles.
I became interested in gender issues in my late teens with my first awkward (strongly introverted, mildly anti-social, severely anxious) steps into adulthood. I never doubted my bio female identity but at the same time felt like "woman" was too reductionist a term to fully describe myself. I've always had far more men than women friends (it's like I don't even speak female language) and been more inclined to typically male activities and preferences but not a tomboy, either. Case in point: The very first day I ever wore a dress was Halloween 3-4 years ago. It was also the first day I ever had to jump start my car, and I felt far more proud and accomplished about wearing the dress because I already knew how to jump start a car
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It doesn't bother me not fitting neatly into any of the labels but when I do get to feeling adrift not having a shorthand attribute to think of myself as, I go with "Indiesexual"--- unique like the rest of me
. My male mind and female body do not contradict each other but rather give me a wholeness of identity whose strength I embrace!
I look forward to learning from you all and hopefully being able to contribute as well. Thank you for letting me join in!
--- Lotus
