Transition update

[Rambler]

Hi everyone! It's been a while and since there have been some big developments I thought I should check in with everything going on.

Voice lessons have gone beautifully, my coach has officially told me all I need is a maintenance session once every couple months going forward.

I'm now at 5 months HRT and just got my second follow up blood test that had my levels in female ranges and everything else showing perfectly healthy. My doctor suggested boosting my Spiro dose so as of last night I've doubled my starting dose.

I've been coming out of the woodwork with my transition. This weekend we will be telling my father in-law & his wife, after that my Wife's entire family will know. So far I've only told my big sister on my side, the rest of my siblings, parents, and grandparents will get letters very shortly.

I've set a full-time day at work: the first Monday in November. I've been busy preparing by building my wardrobe.

I will also begin the new change process very quickly but first I have to get moved into my new place, which I close on tomorrow! & update my address on my license, hopefully in the next month I'll be able to start scheduling a court date and knock out the requirements.

Big things are happening!

[Devlyn]

Big hug! Momentum is on your side now, feels good, huh? 

Thanks for the update, it's good to know that you're doing well.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Laurie]

Hi Rambler,

  Big things indeed! congrats and good luck too. Coming out can be difficult as can going full time unless you happen to blunder into it as I did. It's probably better for most to  ugh "plan" it.

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Bari Jo]

Congrats, things are really progressing.  I'm interested in how your coworkers take it when you tell them.  If only that could be a hidden camera show.  I'd totally watch each episode a new workplace and new coming out:)

[Rambler]

Congrats, things are really progressing.  I'm interested in how your coworkers take it when you tell them.  If only that could be a hidden camera show.  I'd totally watch each episode a new workplace and new coming out:)

I'm planning on sending a company wide email out the Friday before I starts full-time at work. I decided it best because holding a meeting for the announcement is difficult to arrange being that we have six locations across three time zones even though there's not even 75 people in the company. I also just don't want to make a big deal about it at work.

[HappyMoni]

Libbey,
Wow, that is wonderful. So cool! Nice to see your picture too. Lots of great stuff going on.
Moni

[Ajessica250]

I also just don't want to make a big deal about it at work.

First off congratulations. You sound happy about how things are going. Talking to work was the real turning point for me. One of the managers said I spend a third of my life at work he just wants me to be happy and comfortable while there. I told him I just want it to be business as usual. We should not have to make a big deal about it at work but there is a great deal of people who for one reason or another are uneducated on political correctness when addressing a person who is transitioning in the workplace. It is important those you work with treat you with respect and refer to you in proper terminology. No matter what label you choose or choose not to have.

[Rambler]

Well, things are all set. I've got my letters written, plan has been set with HR & company leadership. The letter to my parents goes out today and the ones to my grandparents go out thursday-friday. I haven't been close with any of them for a long time and that will likely spell the end of any relationship I have with all of them. I'm ready, it's time.

As far as not making a big deal at work? I don't mean this isn't important to me, but attention is never something I've sought in my day to day life or regarding this transition. I don't feel the need to disrupt normalcy by demanding a company wide meeting when I feel I can better explain this change and why it matters to me with a simple letter.

[Rambler]

I finally heard something back a week after sending the letter to my parents. The first person to reach out was my little sister late last night. My mother let her read the letter. I'm okay with her seeing everything in those pages and Pages, but I'm a little bit hurt that my mother outed me to her without so much as a word to me. Granted, I'm far from close with my sister and I can understand why she was told. My mom reached out herself this morning, simply saying that she will always love me, but with no mention of support from or acceptance. We haven't had a good relationship for years now, and I expect anything from her to take time, but I got the impression it was more of an unspoken "I'll always love you, but..." Only time will tell. Still nothing from my dad. I won't be surprised if he goes to the grave without a word.

[Ajessica250]

Today I presented HR with a letter about my transitioning to share with my co-workers.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,229620.msg2039240.html#msg2039240

I think a letter is the best way to say what you feel is important.