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Who Still Wears Their "Boy Clothes"?

Started by Allie24, October 11, 2017, 07:05:32 PM

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Daniellekai

I'll be dropping mine eventually, but for now I'm just letting hormones work while I stay low key. I will however be ditching everything and doing some extreme hair removal within a couple years. Just taking it slow.


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Allie24

Quote from: flytrap on October 12, 2017, 08:04:04 AM
Our posts must have crossed in cyberspace, Allie24. I said right above this how much I rock boy clothes and nobody thinks I look like a guy when I wear them. I am 5'10" 146 pounds and totally get feeling awkward in super feminine clothing, how comfy guy stuf is, and how it makes me look smaller. It's not everybody's style, but I think a girl has to have alot of self confidence to wear boy clothes and not worry that people will think she is a guy.

Oops! I guess I has misunderstood it.

I agree though that you have to be ok getting misgendered if you dress this way. It happens even to cis women who wear masculine clothing & haircuts. The odd "he" or "sir" my slip out the the mouth of an unobservant individual.
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flytrap

Yup, you sort of have to let roll off your back when someone doesn't realize you are a girl. I usually only wear mascara and Cherry Chapstick so a barrette or some girly piece is usually all it takes to keep that from happening. Boy stuf really works with my Boho clothes and casual surfer girl style. No guy shoes, though, they make my size 10's look like Frankenstein feet!

It's funny the things people zero in on. Primary fits right in with all the other good old boys who have long hair here in the US South. LOL, up north he gets alot of stares and maam's even with his Van Dyke. Sometimes cashier's mistake me for a guy until they get a better look because I am tall. Rather than making a big deal out of it or embarrassing anyone, Primary and me both just ignore it til the person figures out their mistake.



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Tessa James

How we think about ourselves and the clothes we wear may be reflected in the language we use.  Years ago when starting transition my pendulum swung with self liberation and i wore nothing but skirts and dresses for months.  Did that make me a woman?  Not in my estimation but it did free me from the tyranny of gendered clothing strictures.  Clothes don't make the man or the woman.  We all understand that a fascinating book might have a bland cover. 

Eventually my pendulum swung back toward the middle with the recognition that clothing designed for women is often flimsy, thin and impractical.  Being pragmatic it is clear that working outdoors or in any occupation where chiffon and high heels don't help we may be restricting ourselves to fit an appearance stereotype.

I applaud those who recognize their clothes need not be gendered and we can create our own styles to fit our individual tastes and needs.  IMHO we should all feel free to dress as we please and help ourselves throw off the shackles and dictates of the fashion industry and sycophantic fashionistas.  This is one way that our diversity is personally reflected as we can rock the rainbow of colors.  What are your true colors?
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Allie24

Quote from: flytrap on October 12, 2017, 12:45:16 PM
Yup, you sort of have to let roll off your back when someone doesn't realize you are a girl. I usually only wear mascara and Cherry Chapstick so a barrette or some girly piece is usually all it takes to keep that from happening. Boy stuf really works with my Boho clothes and casual surfer girl style. No guy shoes, though, they make my size 10's look like Frankenstein feet!

It's funny the things people zero in on. Primary fits right in with all the other good old boys who have long hair here in the US South. LOL, up north he gets alot of stares and maam's even with his Van Dyke. Sometimes cashier's mistake me for a guy until they get a better look because I am tall. Rather than making a big deal out of it or embarrassing anyone, Primary and me both just ignore it til the person figures out their mistake.

I def go for the whole "Riot Grrrl" look, because I am hopelessly in love with '90s fashion. So you'll generally see me wearing combat boots, dark/ripped skinny jeans, smokey eyes and Helena Bonham-Carter-level messed up hair.

I think some women, even cis women, just can't pull off high femme on a daily basis. And there's nothing wrong with that. We adapt and make due.
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Charlie Nicki

I have a lot of clothes that I LOVE. Cool jackets, sweaters... At first I thought I would get rid of all of it once I transitioned just because I thought I had to change everything...But I don't have to! There are a lot of cool items that I wanna keep and wear even when I start presenting female.

And the shirt on your avi looks great on you. I don't see a reason for you to throw away clothes that make you look good and girly regardless of which section of the store you bought it from.
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rmaddy

There's a stage in transition where you think, "I'll keep that suit in case someone is getting married or buried."  Eventually you start thinking, "No way in hell I'd wear that, even for someone I loved."  That's when Goodwill gets some nice clothes.
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LadyGreen

My clothes are mostly gender neutral but i also wear baggy hip hop style stuff and suits that honestly make me look like an effeminate pimp. [emoji38]

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SadieBlake

Sure, many of the labs I work in mandate DRAB for safety and my work clothing generally needs to be durable and practical, also functional pockets matter. Also for the moment I can't afford a new wardrobe and clothed is better than naked ... Well except for hanging at home :-).
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flytrap

One of my girlfriends has a really cool way of looking at it:
"Your choices double after you realize you can shop in the whole store for your clothes."
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Colleen_definitely

You'll take my band tour shirts from my cold dead hands!  ;D
As our ashes turn to dust, we shine like stars...
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Lady Lisandra

I do! I still wear my boy shirts and vests, and a few band shirts. They were the only part of male clothing I actually liked, why should I throw them away? Still, I gave away tons of clothing....
- Lis -
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Doreen

Quote from: Allie24 on October 11, 2017, 07:05:32 PM
I feel like a bit of a minority on this site, seeing as how I have changed so little when I transitioned. My tomboyish qualities I have retained, with the addition of makeup and skirts/dresses for special occasions. Aside from that, I dress pretty much exactly as I did in high school (before my two-year stint of "playing it straight"). I have even kept a lot of my old clothes... the band t-shirts, and the big flannels...

Does anyone else continue wearing their "boy clothes"? Or is it just me? lol

I had a house fire post transition that burned all my old clothing ... records... pictures.. EVERYTHING I owned.  I called it my final purge (No I didn't start it..happened midnight christmas eve so family was all gone).

That being said I still wear 'drab' .. dumpy jeans, tshirts, when I'm out working in the garden or cleaning up around the shop/house.  Out in public though its very rare anymore for me to dress dumpy anymore.  Except when I'm in my gi, I consider that 'drab' too... but its a requirement for our class to wear it.   Oh well, the rest of the girls are too, so I don't feel so bad.
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Jin

Sure, I still wear them. Like Jaden Pinkett-Smith says: "They are not girl-clothes or boy-clothes, they are just clothes"
I dress about 60-40 as boy-girl. By choice, the 'Whim of the day' sort of choice.
I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam.
-- Popeye

A wise person can learn more from fools than a fool can learn from a wise person.
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paula lesley

I'm a biker dyke with a love of pink  :o I do go " girl " sometimes too. Endless possibilities  ;)



Paula, X.
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SailorMars1994

Nope. To my knowledge they were all put in garbage bags and donated to a value village.
AMAB Born: March 1994
Gender became on radar: 2007
Admitted to self : 2010
Came out: May 12 2014
Estrogen: October 16 2015
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LaRell

  I still have a lot of my boy clothes, because I have not transitioned fully just yet.  Today is my 3 month mark of being on HRT, and I still mostly present as a funny dressing man still. ha ha  I have gradually added girls shirts and jeans and capris and things into my wardrobe that I can still mostly get away with wearing as a guy.  And I pretty much strictly wear womens clothes now, they are just not skirts and dresses just yet.   My wife teases me, because I pretty much will not wear anything from the mens section no matter how feminine it might look simply because it was made as "mens" clothing.  She keeps saying she is going to go to the mens section, find some cute shirt or jeans, and take the tag off, and sew the tag of womens clothes on it, and then I would wear it simply because I knew it was womens clothing.  ha ha  There is definitely some psychology involved there.

warmbody28

I use to not wear guy cloths as I'm done with transition and love dresses and skirts. But I like to raid my boyfriends closet sometimes and just wear his things.
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Cailan Jerika

Quote from: Allie24 on October 12, 2017, 07:41:26 AM
Yeah my clothes could also be considered gender neutral. The shirts are unisex, and the jeans, though fitted for women, are no different than the jeans I wore in high school (which were also fitted for women). In a sense I feel like I have cone full circle. That's why I don't really mind my high school photos, because I still look like a girl in them, just a very butch girl. I'm sure if I showed someone they wouldn't be able to tell the difference.

There's no such thing as "unisex" t-shirts. They are mens' cut (and therefore don't fit my body at all) but are marketed as for anyone. I'm the reverse of you.

I am transmasc, but I wear my women's clothes because I like them. I still shop for them and love lacy, sparkly, pretty underthings. I don't like most mens' fashions. I find them boring and limited in color and style. And I detest pants in general. I am wearing mens sweaters and tanks, but they end up looking femme because I pair them with denim skirts, and I'm busty and I don't bind. The result is a look that is more "Amazon woman" (more femme than butch) than gender neutral. But this fits me perfectly, since I'm bi-gender and like to express both sides of myself and I hate gender neutral concepts.










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Allie24

Quote from: Cailan Jerika on October 13, 2017, 01:44:00 PM
There's no such thing as "unisex" t-shirts. They are mens' cut (and therefore don't fit my body at all) but are marketed as for anyone. I'm the reverse of you.

I am transmasc, but I wear my women's clothes because I like them. I still shop for them and love lacy, sparkly, pretty underthings. I don't like most mens' fashions. I find them boring and limited in color and style. And I detest pants in general. I am wearing mens sweaters and tanks, but they end up looking femme because I pair them with denim skirts, and I'm busty and I don't bind. The result is a look that is more "Amazon woman" (more femme than butch) than gender neutral. But this fits me perfectly, since I'm bi-gender and like to express both sides of myself and I hate gender neutral concepts.

Really? I love the concept of gender neutrality. It leaves the door open for endless possibilities of expression regardless of sex or gender identity.
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