Recently, I came out to my SO, and am in those beginning stages of seeking support/therapy, to work through the various things that need work. I'm feeling good inside, and Rachel is starting to emerge, mentally. As a result, I feel the need to maybe discuss this with others who I'm sure will be supportive, including a couple of coworkers.
One of these coworkers is, herself, a trans woman. She's had electrolysis, top surgery, has legally changed her gender to female, passes as female to, I believe, most anyone, and is really rather successful professionally. Of anyone I know and can talk to, she seems the most appropriate for such conversations. The issue is that I also sometimes feel like I'm not sure if I should trust her, because she generally isn't very discreet. Another part of me thinks this is absurd, because of anyone that I know should be discreet about my personal transgender journey, she seems most likely to be.
It's one of those situations of - Do I trust my instincts, or follow what seems like common sense here? Another facet is that one of her best friends, that she tells pretty much everything to, is my boss. While I do really like my boss, I'm not ready to have that conversation with her, and I fear I could be, even unintentionally, outed to her when they're out having drinks or a spa day, or something of the like.
Is it unusual for one trans person to out another, or am I just being needlessly paranoid about something that should probably be a non-issue? Because of life experiences, I tend to have issues trusting others. I'd like to think I can trust her, but something tells me that maybe I shouldn't. At least not at this time.
