I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for, but here goes.
I'm AMAB, but never felt like "male" described me, other than anatomically. Gender always felt like something society was imposing on me, as if I'd been drafted (to get sent off to Vietnam, presumably.) It isn't something I would have chosen and it's something I would have much rather gotten out of, if I'd had any idea how. I went along as little as I could get away with. When I can get away from all the stuff they're trying (not all that successfully) to make me do and be, I'm neither male nor female, I'm just me.
I'm transitioning to living as a woman, but it doesn't mean I feel like I'm a woman inside. It's just that looking like a woman, dressing like a woman, acting out a woman's role, and having people respond to me as if I were a woman is a heck of a lot more pleasant and easier. Inside, though, I'm still neither male nor female, I'm just me.
Maybe if I were in my teens or 20's, instead of my 60's, and if I hadn't had such horrible experiences with "male socialization" and with boys and men, I might have opted for being genderqueer or agender or something. But I think that it would still be kind of a role or a language or something which I chose to most comfortably relate to the rest of humanity. Deep inside, I would still be just me.