HRT will feminize your face, so you may have less to worry about than you think. And FFS is always an option if you still need it after the hormones have done their magic.
I do a lot of people-watching these days, in order to improve my mannerisms. One thing I have noticed is just how many masculine-looking women there are out there. I know that few, if any, of them are trans, which means that there are a lot of cis women who "don't pass". Yet they do pass because they were born into their role. I take comfort from that, in that the bar is a lot lower than I had feared.
Like your gender identity, your sexual orientation is what it is. From your description, it sounds like you might be bi, or bi-curious. Whether you explore that, and if so how you explore it, is something to work out with your wife.
I knew before I started transitioning that I was a lesbian. My wife calls herself a LBM - a lesbian by marriage.
My hairline is a goner. While the rate of hair loss has slowed on HRT, the bald areas are never coming back. I wear a wig most places. I have several wigs. When I can't wear a wig, I wear a hat. I don't go out in public without some kind of head covering.
