Gate Keepers unlocked the gate.....Finally

[Sarah_Evelyn]

Hello all,
Yesterday I was finally prescribed estrogen. Over a year in the making. I bounced from the VA in Denver which does not follow the same definitions and protocols of other VA health facilities, to civilian DR's. I had to re-prove myself as transgender to a panel of 4 professionals. 1 psychiatrist, 1 psychologist, 2 medical doctors even after having an HRT letter from my normal therapist. This was all because the endocrinologist didn't understand that I didn't want a social transition at this point.
Long story short never give up on yourself!!! As everyone of those people who questioned me, came to realize beyond a shadow of a doubt (that phrase was even used in the psychologist's notes) that I was transgender the truth prevailed.
I'm excited to begin my personal path of authenticity. I know it will be difficult but I also know aligning the body and brain will be the reward.

For anyone facing the difficulty of the medical system.... DON'T GIVE UP.

[AnonyMs]

This was all because the endocrinologist didn't understand that I didn't want a social transition at this point.

Probably would have been easier not to mention that bit.

[Sarah_Evelyn]

I agree it would have been easier but that would have been dishonest in my view. This was a provider I was going to continue to need. My thought process was get it all out in the open. It may take a little longer but there would be a trust and understanding between the Dr. and myself that would continue the treatment with my actual goals in mind.
Just my thoughts behind it.

[AnonyMs]

Its good you got what you wanted the way you wanted it, but I think I can safely say that I don't think that way.

[Meghan]

Transition with Hormones replacement therapy is a long term process, and your transitions team had to be sure for you begin Hormones. Because HRT is a big step to change your body. They just want you to make sure about what you want and will not change your mind later. When I begin my HRT I know I can't change back.

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[Toni]

Hi Sarah, I went through a bunch of stuff with the VA and in the end concluded that they didn't quite get it.  In the end I went private.  I had to meet with four psychologists so far.  I've spoken with and retold my story (ugh! wears you out every time) with each of them, feeling like I'm just standing there naked for inspection.  Fortunately, they were all decent and three were able to connect with me and really help.  I think it's great that you just decided to tell it like it is.  If what you feel is real, it will show and if there is some doubt, there may be additional things for you to think about.  Either way, this is way too serious to consider playing any games.  Just be who you feel you are and it will work out, hurray for you!  Toni 

[Devlyn]

I agree it would have been easier but that would have been dishonest in my view. This was a provider I was going to continue to need. My thought process was get it all out in the open. It may take a little longer but there would be a trust and understanding between the Dr. and myself that would continue the treatment with my actual goals in mind.
Just my thoughts behind it.

Congratulations! I wrestled with telling my truth or reciting the Standard Trans Narrative ®.

I went with my truth and got what I wanted. Be advised that if you seek surgery,  your letters WILL deliver the narrative, it's your provider telling the insurance companies what they need to hear.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Sarah_Evelyn]

Thank you all for your replies. I just felt the need to share a little of my pain in the system and share the excitement getting through gate