Just a post to share a few things

[Faith]

My wife is totally ok with my panties and womens jeans/shorts (for 57 I look pretty good in short-shorts ). She enjoys helping me shop and fit. It still feels a bit odd to go into the fitting room together but no one has stopped us yet. She is having trouble with the shirts. I want to shop what I like, mens or womens either way. She is uncomfortable and prefers mens. Now, I understand, it's a lot for her so slowly is best. I told her that if we could find similar styles or looks in mens that I would wear those instead. I have to shop budget which makes mens clothes pretty bland. WIP.

I wore a couple nice blouses around the house, nothing special just comfortable with jeans or shorts. One daughter came over and we also had the grandkids (one boy one girl 12/13)  over for the weekend. Nothing said, no sideways glances. Granddaughter did mention me wearing shorts. I just said, I like shorts .. you're wearing shorts too. It was likely the style that caught her eye (normally mens baggy shorts which I hate). Nothing untoward said though.

Oh, I started doing my nails two weeks ago. Nothing special just shaped and clear coat.I really like them. I redid them this weekend.  I've had three women comment that my nails are better than theirs and my daughter said it looked like I went and got a manicure. No negative comments.

My wife and I went out the other night. I did not dress overtly feminine. I did tuck and wear panties with formfitting jeans (I do not have overly thin hips, however, they are narrower than my shoulders. I am not sure of the ratio.). Shirt tucked in with belt, & boots. She liked it, I liked it, all good.  I even ended up on stage in front of people (I sing and play). I was very comfortable. No one appeared to stare ... likely no one noticed at all - is that good or bad?

Overall, I am happy. I want to progress faster but I also know at this time that slower is better

thanks for letting me share a few things.

[The Flying Lemur]

Congratulations on moving forward!  I'm really glad to hear that your wife is supportive and that you haven't had negative reactions.  It's fantastic to feel like you're being more yourself without having to put up with other people's blowback.

[HappyMoni]

Hi,
   You are wise to go slow. I fully transitioned but did it very slowly at first for the benefit of my grown children. I know they appreciated it and now they don't blink an eye when I wear a dress. You want to avoid the visual shock, I feel.
Moni

[mm]

NamelessOne, wise to start slowly allows others to get use to the new you slowly.  With your wife's support you have great help in shopping, going out, etc.

[Faith]

thanks. It is hard to go slow, I feel ready to dive in even though I know I'm not.

I also know that, unfortunately and I feel for them, some people have a very broken personal life making a transition different in that the opinion of other matters less (even when they think it does). In my case, we have a very close immediate family with little drama or backstabbing. I am very blessed. This also makes it more important to go slowly out of respect for them. I doubt I'd alienate them but they would have trouble coming to terms.

My parents are both gone but I know that they would have supported me even if not in agreement or understanding.

What I'm doing may not seem like much to some, to me it's huge.

Thanks for being here, I appreciate being able to share with those that understand where I'm at.

[Toni]

What you're doing IS huge!  I know it's so hard to hold back, but I have come to think it's really best for everyone.  Been through all this with my wife and sons and it may well be part of why they are still around.  Look at it like going to school, lots to learn. so realize it'll take a while before you're ready to graduate.  Also remember that there's more than just you experiencing this.  Enjoy.  Toni

[Faith]

Oh, I forgot as well, My wife helped me pick out night clothes. I stared at the frillies that I liked, she kind of got wide-eyed. Ok, not ready for that, we moved on.

I mentioned pajama bottoms, she did not wander to the mens section, she went straight to the womens area and we picked out a pair. I asked about tops, she pointed to a half top. I went by the look in her eyes and said, not yet, maybe when I have breasts (ok, I said boobs slightly humorously). Then she reminded me about the top I had at home already saying it'd match.

Yep, wore them last night, they matched and felt great ... crap, I'm almost tearing up, can't get all mushy at work .......