First Earrings Recommendations

[The Flying Lemur]

Safety pins!

LOL!  Back in the ancient days (late 80's), multiple piercings were the ****.  My parents wouldn't let me get a cartilage piercing, so I did it with a safety pin.  No problems for me, but then my sister did the same thing and ended up with a keloid that had to be surgically removed.  So be careful out there, kids!

[noleen111]

Go for studs in the beginning, let your holes heal properly. then experiment. I personally love hoop earrings, the bigger the hoop the better..

[Bari Jo]

Thanks all, im going Friday for the piercings.  Of course saturday im flying to japan for business.  It will be interesting to see what my japanese counterparts think.  I will get a set of the clear studs in case im breaking local dress codes.

Bari Jo

[Colleen_definitely]

I would hold off on piercings then.  I tried swapping mine out a couple days after getting pierced and that was a BAD idea.  Since the hole hadn't healed yet I had to go fishing for the other side and that was quite uncomfortable.

Anyway I went with basic white gold studs

[DawnOday]

You can get the same effect for clip ons. Shipwreck Beads has the largest selection of jewelry components. You can make your own, The clips I bought have an attachment ring and can accommodate hanging the danglies from your wire hooks. I am on blood thinners and cannot get my ears pierced, so these work very nicely.  I don't have danglies to attach to them yet but you can see the little ring on the side to hang them on.

[Bari Jo]

I would hold off on piercings then.  I tried swapping mine out a couple days after getting pierced and that was a BAD idea.  Since the hole hadn't healed yet I had to go fishing for the other side and that was quite uncomfortable.

Anyway I went with basic white gold studs

I cant hold off.  I think you saw in my other doubt thread, im having a patch right now.  I need to move forward. If i hold off im afraid of my mental state and what decisions are made.  Onward and forward, i hope:)

Bari Jo

[KathyLauren]

Thanks all, im going Friday for the piercings.  Of course saturday im flying to japan for business.  It will be interesting to see what my japanese counterparts think.  I will get a set of the clear studs in case im breaking local dress codes.

Bari Jo

You can't change your earrings after you get them done.  Whatever they put in at the piercing place, that's what you have to wear for however many weeks they tell you.  If you want the clear ones, have them put in when you get the piercing done.  You have to wear them 24/7, and that does not mean 23:59/7.

[Laurie]

You can't change your earrings after you get them done.  Whatever they put in at the piercing place, that's what you have to wear for however many weeks they tell you.  If you want the clear ones, have them put in when you get the piercing done.  You have to wear them 24/7, and that does not mean 23:59/7.

This is not quite true. They can be taken out and replaced but it is not advisable due to possible problems it could cause. I did my own 2nd set and took the earrings in and out many times. Getting them back in can be a problem as is the added chance of infection. I am also pretty sure it took longer to heal. But it can be done. I was careful to sterilize things before putting them in and kept my ears clean and disinfected. But as I said it is best to just leave them in if you can.

[Bari Jo]

You can't change your earrings after you get them done.  Whatever they put in at the piercing place, that's what you have to wear for however many weeks they tell you.  If you want the clear ones, have them put in when you get the piercing done.  You have to wear them 24/7, and that does not mean 23:59/7.

I will gamble that it will be fine with the white gold studs.  If it isnt i will swap out the studs for the clear ones and have a very uncomfortable swap.  I know you arent supposed to do this.

Bari Jo

[jfong]

Thanks all, im going Friday for the piercings.  Of course saturday im flying to japan for business.  It will be interesting to see what my japanese counterparts think.  I will get a set of the clear studs in case im breaking local dress codes.

Bari Jo

Getting infected in foreign county is not fun. Won't recommend doing the piercing just before you go abroad.

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[Colleen_definitely]

I will gamble that it will be fine with the white gold studs.  If it isnt i will swap out the studs for the clear ones and have a very uncomfortable swap.  I know you arent supposed to do this.

Bari Jo

Yellow gold might actually blend in with skin tone better for you. The white gold ones stand out a lot more than I expected, but if you don't mind then go for it.

[VeronicaLynn]

This is not quite true. They can be taken out and replaced but it is not advisable due to possible problems it could cause. I did my own 2nd set and took the earrings in and out many times. Getting them back in can be a problem as is the added chance of infection. I am also pretty sure it took longer to heal. But it can be done. I was careful to sterilize things before putting them in and kept my ears clean and disinfected. But as I said it is best to just leave them in if you can.

I agree this is not entirely true, though still is what is recommended. I had my left ear pierced when I was a teenager and my boss made me take it out after he noticed it. I put it back in after work, and then just took it off and put in my pocket when I went to work. I'd put it in during my lunch break sometimes. This was only a part time job though, usually not more than 7 hours a day, and close to 30 hours a week. That piercing never closed up or got infected, I even went a few years since then not wearing an earring ever and it still didn't close up.

Pierced the other one myself to match about a year ago. Don't recommend this, but at least I think I'm done with new piercings. I really like just having each ear pierced once. That's what a lot of cis women have.

I mostly wear studs, though sometimes I like dangly earrings. Even did back when I just had the one.

[Toni]

Actual pierced ears are a great sort of right of passage in terms of commitment for us.  Had mine done at Claires, the girl that did them was really nice and no issues being kind of guy at the time.  No one even gives me a second look, they're so common in all male castes these days.  I went with SS balls, the largest I could choose from because you won't believe how difficult they are to grasp and move about as required, in my case 3 weeks with the "fast heal slightly more expensive" solution they give you.  FWIW before that I used a hoop that you can get at Claire's that has the top rear portion of the hoop internally sprung so it slides back into the hoop and then springs out to lock onto the back side of your earlobe.  Absolutely undetectable from real pierced ear hoops and hang on like hell.  Ingenious design and inexpensive.  Toni

[Bari Jo]

Actual pierced ears are a great sort of right of passage in terms of commitment for us.  Had mine done at Claires.

I just had mine done at claires.  I guess i am committed now:).  I got 3 mm, white gold with bezels.  Literally the instant i walked out of the store i ran into people i knew.  I just owned the new pierces, said i loved them!

Bari Jo

[Lady Sarah]

One might think clip-on earrings are a great idea for beginners, if you don't mind losing them when they fall off. Small studs are better. I have 3 studs in each ear. They are very low maintenance, and since they are "piercing studs", I don't worry about the clips falling off, and the earrings getting lost.
Sally's Beauty Supply sells do-it-yourself piercing kits that make it quite easy. If you don't think you can do it, have a friend or family member help out.

[Bari Jo]

Ill add one more note.  Im noticing this morning thay the earings are not totally symettrical.  Probably most people wouldnt notice it, but this kind of thing is my job.  So now i cant wait to get the second pierce in each ear to add visual confusion as to location of the pierces.

Bari Jo

[Colleen_definitely]

Mine are also a little asymmetric but nobody seems to notice but me.

[Angela Drakken]

Hi ladies, I'm getting my ears pierced this week.  What do you recommend for a style?  I prefer small, but loops, studs, clasps, other?  What do you think would look best to frame this ugly mug?  I typically wear ladies skinny jeans, tshirts and hoodies or Jean jacket if that helps.

Bari Jo

As a general rule, whatever they pierce them with originally, usually a small stainless steel stud, (still kinda cute and would prob look good on you) I would leave in for 2-4 weeks for most of the initial healing to have happened before changing to any other sort of jewelry. I also advocate for hollow needle piercing over the gun. *cringe.* So much tissue trauma with the gun, and although hollow needle begins with generally a much larger gauge, it causes less tissue trauma, meaning less potential for unsightly keloid scarring on the lobes, and therefore faster healing times.

I try to tell people to avoid wearing long heavy dangly earrings for long periods of time, as they have a tendency to 'cheese wire' through the lobe and eventually even migrate out of the ear causing all sorts of hell.

As it stands now, I have an untold amount of holes in my body, and at one point I was apprenticing to be a body piercer. My largest holes however in my lobes are only a 12.5mm (1/2") And I recently picked up these.


Not sure if stretched ears are something you're interested in, it's more of an alternative look but might go with some rocking skinny jeans and jackets ect. I also found the altered shape of my lobe (they used to be small like yours) framed my face a lot better and made it appear less 'square.' *shrug.*

Ill add one more note.  Im noticing this morning thay the earings are not totally symettrical.  Probably most people wouldnt notice it, but this kind of thing is my job.  So now i cant wait to get the second pierce in each ear to add visual confusion as to location of the pierces.

Second holes do help with that, stretching does also correct this. (They weirdly enough find their own symmetry probably due to the natural placement of cartilage in the ear ect) Again its not a look for everyone.

[Devlyn]

My understanding is that the training studs need to be left in for awhile.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Bari Jo]

As a general rule, whatever they pierce them with originally, usually a small stainless steel stud, (still kinda cute and would prob look good on you)

Not sure if stretched ears are something you're interested in, it's more of an alternative look but might go with some rocking skinny jeans and jackets ect. I also found the altered shape of my lobe (they used to be small like yours) framed my face a lot better and made it appear less 'square.' *shrug.*

Second holes do help with that, stretching does also correct this. (They weirdly enough find their own symmetry probably due to the natural placement of cartilage in the ear ect) Again its not a look for everyone.

Hi Angela, that was my thoughts as well on the studs.   i went with these from Claires.



I am not sure about stretching.  I do like the look on people, just not sure if its right for me.  Right noe im going for cute, even if i dress alternative.  Its such a fine line since im older, my beauty years have long gone, but im doing the best i can with what ive got to work with.

Bari Jo