Quote from: Alexa Ares on November 04, 2017, 04:31:12 AM
It's not easy for wives of women like us....
Thats is an absolute true. It is really hard for them... as it is for us.
Transitioning is an extreme hard decision to make when we are married to heterosexual women.
For me I came to a point where it was choosing between keeping her and being unhappy with myself or loosing her and being unhappy the same way.
I came to the conclusion that I wouldn't anymore be able to make her happy if I wasn't happy with myself and I would end up loosing her anyway...
Even if if the wife is supportive, when we take this decision we have to be ready for the worst possible outcomes, as it is very normal for them to step back and realize they are not being themselves living as lesbians. We have also to be supportive and understand that... for them our transition is also a struggle for their identities.
I'd recommend talking to her as most as possible about the topic. And if you decide to, starting transitioning as slow as possible to give her time to be adjusting her psychologic balance at each step. I has been working for me at least up until now...
But read, study and talk with specialists as much as possible about effects of hormones. And maybe it can help to talk with a psychologist specialized in gender issues and try to find maybe a third option other than this binary dichotomy.
It is important for you to know that it is expected for hormones to drop significantly your sex drive (in fact, I believe this is even a way to chemically castrate sexual offenders). It is also expected your sperm production to reduce or even stop. This influences very hard on your own orgasm sensations.
Erections I believe may vary a lot from person to person. I suspect it has more to do with the perception of one's own sexuality than with biophysical constraints. For me even though involuntary erections had gone for good (thank Goodness) I am still able to normally have erections when sexually aroused and stimulated.
But it is also important - specially if you really identify yourself as a transgirl - to learn how to lean out of phallocentrism regarding sexual relations. If both you and your wife understand the penis as just another way - among many other ways - of having and giving pleasure, this is not an issue for you guys anymore.

And about taking E without AA, never make this decision yourself. It is extremely dangerous as hormones aren't things to fool around.
As far as I know, your body will respond to the hormone which has higher levels on your organism. So if you don't drop your T-levels you would need a huge dose of E to make any difference. And when using hormones you are going to need the lowest dose as possible, so you don't strain your organs, and mainly your liver.
Well, I hope my thoughts on the matter can help you anyway!