Well, Idris Elba is just all around awesome to begin with. But I think that's mostly personality! Yes, he's got the muscles and all that, but even if he didn't he'd still be Idris Elba.
But with men and women alike I think that I can look at someone and think "Well, they are physically gorgeous, but they are complete jackasses so I'm not attracted to them in the slightest". So it's not that I don't see or appreciate that physical form for sure, but there is no amount of physical attractiveness that can on balance outweigh a bad personality. On the other hand, if I see someone who is not traditionally physically attractive, if they have a great personality, I can definitely be attracted to them. So on that same balance, a good personality can outweigh a massive, massive degree of physical unattractiveness. Personality is a must, looks is a bonus.
Though one thing that is huge issue for me is being
too muscular. Terry Crews for instance. I love the guy, he is charming and hilarious in everything he does. Personality there in spades. And by any reasonable standard, taking age into fair account, he's very attractive. But no. I don't like the 1% body fat, razor sharp lines of muscle look at all to the point it kind of grosses me out a little. If someone is going to be buff, it needs to be Hemsworth type not professional bodybuilder type.
I need another year of hormones/weight loss/hair removal/hair restoration and then a date.
