Faith's Progress

[Faith]

I don't have any words. I can't even re-read it without falling apart ... and I want to keep reading it over and over.

Not only did I lay this huge life-altering change which is transgender upon her, she's thanking me for including her in the journey.

yep, I'm at a loss ...

[Laurie]

Hi faith,

Two comments:
One - You wife (and you too, Hun) are awesome. We have seen it many times in your posts. The connection between you two is obvious. We can see the love in what you write about her and in what she has said or done the you relate to us. That second to the last line tells so much. It tells us your internal struggles affected your marriage. It tells that your wife was affected by it also in feeling left out. And it tells us that your relationship with her has change because you open up to her and let her back in to be an active participant in your life again. That my dear is awesomeness. And one more this it does ... it shows others who may be struggling with these issues that there is hope.

Two - What's this nonsense about keeping yourself to this thread? Do I need to hunt you down and put you on top of the fridge too? I'd send (St)(e)ph (ani)e to do it for me but she's too short. Cassie might do it if I deputize her. hmmm I'll think about it. now where was I? Oh yeah  what is this nonsense? You can't keep your comments to yourself Faith. There are friends out there that want to hear what you think, hear what you have to say. That is why they make threads. They make them to hear what others have to say, and one of those "Others" is you Hun. Don't stop posting elsewhere. Don't shut those others out that want to hear from you.

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Jayne01]

Faith, the note from your wife was beautiful. Good think I don't wear make up yet, it would be messed up by now. What an amazing woman. I am very happy the two of you have this incredible bond between you.

I am at a loss of what to say..... AWESOME!!!

Jayne

[KathyLauren]

Wow, Faith, (*sniff*) that is beautiful!  I second the rock star wife comment.

[Faith]

thanks everyone.  I had my wife read through the replies. She was embarrassed that I posted her words, then she was embarrassed by the replies. I don't think embarrassed is the right word, it's all I can think of right now.

I had the screen laid out just so, then she scrolled down anyway and read comment #2 and started laughing and said, "I like her". Laurie, I think you made a new friend.

[Jayne01]

Mrs Faith's wife, thank you for loving and supporting my friend, Faith. Discovering you are transgender and figuring out how to move forward is an incredibly difficult thing to deal with. It is further complicated when we have loved ones that we don't want to hurt. It takes a very special kind of bond to keep people together through such stressful circumstances. You and Faith have such a bond. I too, am one of the lucky ones and have a similar connection with my wife. She is my hero. So I can understand the emotions Faith must have been feeling when she read your letter. It brought tears to my eyes as I was able to apply these words to how my wife feels about me. My wife has trouble expressing her feelings, spoken or written. But I know she feels the same way you have have described in your letter. Thank you for putting words to how I know my wife feels about me. You are awesome!

Faith, you take care of your wife and don't ever let her go, she is awesome! (But you don't need to be told that, you already know)

Big hug for both of you.

(((((HUG)))))

Jayne

[Laurie]

  Well Faith, now I'm embarrassed. You let her read comment two with all those typos in it? It's a wonder she was able to understand. I have corrected those now. And of course I've made another friend. Online I collect friends. IRL well not so much. Tell her I like her too and hope to get a chance to meet here when I get down that way again. OH and you too of course. 

Hugs,
  Laurie

[Sarah_P]

Faith... just a second... ::wipes away tears::

That was beautiful! I agree, your wife is awesome!

[Faith]

Putting faces to names. We were out doing some retail therapy, pick up some slacks and socks. I also picked up a couple pair of sunglasses that I've been needing. I snapped a couple pictures and Lori, my loving wife, is fine with sharing. So, here you go:

 

I'm not exactly exuding femininity but oh well.

[Laurie]

Putting faces to names. We were out doing some retail therapy, pick up some slacks and socks. I also picked up a couple pair of sunglasses that I've been needing. I snapped a couple pictures and Lori, my loving wife, is fine with sharing. So, here you go:

 

I'm not exactly exuding femininity but oh well.

OMG I see smiles in that last picture!!
Both are good pictures and it is nice to finally see your lovely wife. I even love [emoji180] her name. (She should check the spelling though)

Hugs to both of you. I am looking forward to meeting you both.

Hugs,
   Laurie

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[KathyLauren]

Putting faces to names. We were out doing some retail therapy, pick up some slacks and socks. I also picked up a couple pair of sunglasses that I've been needing. I snapped a couple pictures and Lori, my loving wife, is fine with sharing. So, here you go:

 

I'm not exactly exuding femininity but oh well.

What a sweet couple!  I really like the glasses and the smile in the second photo.  With the hairstyle, my first guess would be femme.

[HappyMoni]

Faith,
   Sorry I am late on your thread but wanted to say I loved the love letter from your wife and the pictures of you two.
Moni

[Jayne01]

What lovely photos. You two look beautiful together. So much love!

Faith! I see some teeth in your smile! Way to go girl. Next thing you know you will be grinning like crazy!

Lori, it's a pleasure to put a face and name to you. I love that second photo.

Jayne

Jayne

[Faith]

teeth showing? I'll have to edit the picture and black them out.

Laurie, she said it's too much work to spell it the long way. Beside, Law-ree vs Loe-ree. At least hers can be pronounced correctly

Sarah! I don't want to leave out a thanks

"Mah-Nee", welcome to my thread. come in and kick your feet up .. kick Laurie while you're at it.

All, thanks for all the nice comments. Loe-ree has read them all. I'd like to point out the matching necklaces visible in the first picture. I can't wear my wedding ring anymore, it won't fit over my ugly knuckles, the matching necklaces was our recent alternative.


On a self-critical note. She has a family nose. I'd like our trans-friends to realize, a larger nose does NOT make you less feminine.

[Faith]

On a progress note:

I texted my 2nd youngest brother with a 'coming out' note and brief explaination. It took him two days to reply. It was a simple, "I'm not sure what that means but as long as you're happy."  Well, could have been worse.

Monthly music jamboree today. One on our female friends pulled my wife aside and said, "I go straight to to source, what's up with ****?." (Wait! Wouldn't I be the source, sheesh!). Lori filled her in, it's what I've told her to do. Say as much or as little as you are comfortable with.The friends primary concern? How my wife was handling it. Well, I can see her priorities   I got some serious hugs so OK on my end

With that, my older brother's wife was there. She knows now too after she asked if I was wearing makeup. So, he'll know tonight and now he'll have time to assimulate it.

All in all, an eventful day.

[Sarah_P]

Awww... you make such a cute couple!!! And yep, I'm seeing a smile slipping through there.... 

[Jayne01]

Im not sure what to add, just letting you know I'm still here keeping up with your progress. Sounds positive so far.

Jayne

[Laurie]

Laurie, she said it's too much work to spell it the long way. Beside, Law-ree vs Loe-ree. At least hers can be pronounced correctly

Faith and Lori I don't know where you learned to pronounce words but according to Prononcenames.com both are pronounced the same so there :-P

"Mah-Nee", welcome to my thread. come in and kick your feet up .. kick Laurie while you're at it.

Meownie, I know you won't come near me whilst I still have my butterfly net, so you can just kick that Faith person but not her sweet wife mind you.

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Faith]

I'm sitting here at work, just got here and ready to go home already. I'm all dressed in pink (including fingernails), except my boots. I told my Wife that I needed pink boots ... that fell flat. I had to assure her that I was only kidding. I have no interest in pink boots, I am not a shoe collector.

I'm not sure how I feel about the slacks. Comfy skinny fit but not tight, short legs just above my boots. I'm not used to that. My Wife says it looks good, I took her at her word so here I am, in public, all pinked up     My hair is all frizzled from being braided over-night. I'll pretend that I'm styling

I'm still struggling with body issues. I can't look at the over-all effect. I have to trust my Wife to tell me if I look ridiculous or not .. well, more-so than normal in any case.

Thanks to all of you for dropping in and catching up, even those of you that don't post. I know you're like me and tend to lurk. You're welcome to post but, if not,  I hope that what you read helps in some small way.

Spread love where you can,
Faith

[Faith]

Feeling a little 'blah' today. I think it's due to the dreary weather and that I'm over-tired.  I still feel good about myself. Doubts are waning though they crop up from time to time. I liked how the pink slacks made me feel yesterday. I think I'll watch for more in that style.

Another 'new' style for me. Orange slacks and purple top. I'm still breaking in my boots .. or is it that they are breaking in my feet? My walk in them is getting much smoother. My work counter-part asked me how I was walking without clomping, she clomps everywhere. I think I'm just trying harder. I find I can walk, at a reasonable speed, down the tile hallway and I'm almost as quiet as my sneakers. Eventually I shouldn't have to think about it at all.

Between the slightly larger slacks and the shape of the top, I saw some nice curves in the mirror .. I just had to ignore my face.



I received an email reply from my sister, all good on that front. No surprise there but very nice to hear. She asked straight up if she should call me Faith and use feminine pronouns.



addendum.
I forgot to notate before. My sister-in-law noticed my make-up, thus asked about it. The friend that pulled my wife aside had noticed it in my stance. Hmm, I didn't think I was standing in any special way, just relaxed. I guess something is working.