20 year friendship killing reaction.

[JMJW]

Transphobia ahead.

My at the time best friend decided to throw away our relationship by messaging me out of the blue with this bile. We mutually blocked each other, I reported him to facebook and Stonewall (he claimed to represent them) and I will never speak to him again. The night after this conversation, I asked him to resign from whatever position he had with them, he refused, told me to get over it, and stop talking nonsense. So I said I will report it. He said that shows my true colours, and spoke as if he was the victim and I'm the one betraying him and throwing our friendship away. He blocked me on facebook first for being "too dangerous" as I told him I took screenshots, then I blocked him back.

He probably assumed he could say whatever he wanted to me and I would just take it as we go way back. But no, there are conversations that are friendship killers. This is one of them.   

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[Charlie Nicki]

 He was extremely rude and insensitive, has he always been like that? I don't know if it was some sort of -poorly executed- banter like some friends do or if he was actually trying to make you feel bad. But wow, I understand why you got upset. Did he apologize?


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[JMJW]

I forgot the one where he misgendered me. the most important one, I added that in, but its here: http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.43%20AM_1.png.html

He made passing mention before that I would make an ugly woman but that was when I was in male presentation and so I let it go as he had never seen me present en femme, but the idea that he was looking at my picture and laughing at it uncontrollably pissed me off and still does to some extent.

No, there was no apology at any point. Even if there was, I probably wouldn't have accepted it.

[Kylo]

This guy being a rep for Stonewall is not an encouraging thought...

[Rachel]

He is an ->-bleeped-<-.

[JMJW]

My therapist said I should grieve the loss. But hell I'm not grieving, I'm celebrating.

It goes to show that you can be fine with some people - as long as you conform to their expectations - the second you step out of it, they can turn suddenly and in a very abusive manner. This was a clear attempt to shame and manipulate me into not changing at all.

[undautri]

Seems like an a-hole to me.
Glad you're ok with this friendship breakup

[Nora Kayte]

You don't need friends like that. You are beautiful inside and out. Don't ever forget that.


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