Surgrey fear!!!???

[Taylorcaudle]

 dont know if anyone else has experienced this and i know this sounds stupid. I have never had a surgrey in my life. I am hoping to have FFS and vaginoplasty at some point in my life. BUT im absolutely terrified of the thought of surgrey i actually start shaking thinking about it. I know it seems ridiculous and getting this is some of the most important things to me. Advice? Opinons maybe? Experiences?

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[Josilyn]

I have had several surgeries in my life.. Recently I had an orchiectomy and 2 weeks ago I had my breast augmentation.. I can tell you that the fun part is going to sleep..  Once that happens it feels like 2 seconds then you are awake again. Normally they give you pain medication during the surgery so that you wake up with as little pain as possible.

For my augmentation I was very afraid of the pain, as many women (trans and cis) said they had a lot of pain from the under the muscle procedure, but I can say on both of the above surgeries I had way less pain than I was anticipating.  My advise is to do more research on the surgeries that you want so you know what to expect as well as find a worse case scenario for afterwards.. Then you will be able to go forward through your surgeries knowing everything you can and then recover and enjoy the new you! 

[Taylorcaudle]

I have had several surgeries in my life.. Recently I had an orchiectomy and 2 weeks ago I had my breast augmentation.. I can tell you that the fun part is going to sleep..  Once that happens it feels like 2 seconds then you are awake again. Normally they give you pain medication during the surgery so that you wake up with as little pain as possible.

For my augmentation I was very afraid of the pain, as many women (trans and cis) said they had a lot of pain from the under the muscle procedure, but I can say on both of the above surgeries I had way less pain than I was anticipating.  My advise is to do more research on the surgeries that you want so you know what to expect as well as find a worse case scenario for afterwards.. Then you will be able to go forward through your surgeries knowing everything you can and then recover and enjoy the new you!

Ahhaah that actuall makes me feel a little better my fear isnt the pain. I have a pretty high pain threshold. My fear is actually making an appointment and actually going. And climbing up on the table haha.

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[Denise]

This is my opinion...

Fear is real.  Try to figure out what you are afraid of.  There are probably individual aspects that you are okay with.  Try to rationalize those parts that you are scared about.  Understanding your fear is the first step.

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[Dena]

I have been under general 7 times and I still have to deal with fear. The advice I can give you is let your doctor know about it because often they can handle you differently before surgery so you don't have as much time to think about it. Last time they gave me a drug that stops short term memories from becoming long term memories. I remember laying in pre op waiting for them to get me and the next thing I knew, I was waking up after surgery. I don't even remember them giving me the drug.

[Rachel]

It is normal to be afraid of something you have never done and had a large impact and potential complications. When you weigh the issues with the positives and rationally decide to do or not do a surgery then you are in control of the situation. I think keeping the list of positives and negatives on hand to review when the feeling surface. In the end only you can overcome your fears.

[Taylorcaudle]

This is my opinion...

Fear is real.  Try to figure out what you are afraid of.  There are probably individual aspects that you are okay with.  Try to rationalize those parts that you are scared about.  Understanding your fear is the first step.

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Thats very helpful. I have a hard time rationalizing anything anymore. Haha

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[Taylorcaudle]

I have been under general 7 times and I still have to deal with fear. The advice I can give you is let your doctor know about it because often they can handle you differently before surgery so you don't have as much time to think about it. Last time they gave me a drug that stops short term memories from becoming long term memories. I remember laying in pre op waiting for them to get me and the next thing I knew, I was waking up after surgery. I don't even remember them giving me the drug.

Oh wow really? Hell yeah thats what i need haha.

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[Dena]

Oh wow really? Hell yeah thats what i need haha.

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The drug is relatively new and they have only been using it for a few years. My anesthesiologist said he had something special for me in his pocket and then left. After surgery when I had time to think about it, I remembered that they had only inserted the IV before surgery and that was all. I heard about the drug several years before that but I never expected them to use it on me however that's the only thing that explains what happened to me.

[Sno]

I've been under once, in a medical emergency.

The hospital did everything they could possibly do to ensure that I was ok - even when I was having a panic attack. Just like everything else, communication is the key - make sure you have a list of your allergies.

Talk about your level of fear, the doctors, and the anaesthetist will be able to make sure that you're ok, don't be stoic and try to just get through, take what's offered, and let them know if it's not effective.

They will do everything they can to care for you, in a way that makes you feel cared for and comfortable.

You can do this.


Rowan

[VeronicaLynn]

I don't think it's that unusual to have concerns about something like this.

I have concerns about anything medical, even something as simple and common as a root canal. I put one of those off until the pain was unbearable. Dysphoria is a different type of pain, but the wait time in putting surgery in motion is quite a bit longer than getting a root canal.

[josie76]

It's fear of the unknown and of not being in control. Find trust in your surgeon. If you trust them it's a lot easier. I've only been under a couple of times in my life. As a kid for tonsils and as an adult for a hernia. Both times the anestetheologist said they would start me with something to make me drowsy. Within minutes I was out. Coming out of it later is harder because you wake up and go back to sleep multiple times only remembering bits of each time you were awake. On my hernia surgery I had the feeling like I had to pee. My wife and the nurse walked me to the bathroom. I had no shame. I said I think I'll just sit. Pulled down my undies and sat. Heck I figured I was there for medical reasons it didn't matter what the nurse saw. Privacy at that moment was not of upmost importance.

[extraaction]

thats a pretty rational fear.  People recieve botched surgeries all the time, or die on the table due to complications, reactions to anesthesia, or malpractice.  Surgeries are never to be taken lightly

[Kylo]

Just read the various success stories as I am sure there are a lot more of those than horror stories associated with this kind of surgery. When they put you out you feel nothing and know nothing and then it's a case of taking it easy during your recovery and following the surgeon's instructions for after care. It's far less exciting or terrifying than you might think in reality, the worst is all made up in your own brain as you wait for it to happen.

Take it from someone who also does not enjoy being put out for surgery. It's really not that bad.

The only worry I have is of complications after a surgery. If that happens it means going back and having the surgeons do something else with the operation site. But 19/20 times this doesn't usually need to happen. Most people recover straightforwardly with no issues.

[pretty pauline]

The lead up to the surgery is the worse, as the date for my srs approached closer I got very anxious and nervous, it 30 years ago, but I remember on the day of my operation being given some kind of sedative that seem to totally relaxed me. When I went under it seemed like only a few mins when I came round, I couldn't understand why I was being wheeled to the recovery room as it only seemed a few minutes, then my Dad telling me ''princess your done'' very surreal moment, all the worries are in the mind, things going wrong are rare.

[extraaction]

things going wrong are rare.

but someone has to make up the statistics.  relieving fear is one thing, pretending its not a gamble is another.

OP: do your research, calculate the risk, and do what you think is best