Being a woman is hard!

[Jessica]

Hi girls 🙋 I have become more aware of mannerisms of women that I hadn't noticed as clearly.  Women throughout history have had it pretty rough in society.  With this new societal awareness of misogynistic realities has awakened many to the injustices women face.  Women can't show anger lest she be called a shrew or hormonal.  Women can't even love themselves for who they are.  Constantly criticizing themselves for how they look or how they feel.  It's an unfair life that's dominated by men.  Having viewed through eyes of a male, I was not fully clear on how bad it is.  I think with myself, transition towards a feminine viewpoint is my goal and now I also see that being a woman and transgender will be doubly hard.  So much to change becoming a woman that as a man would get privileges that a woman does not.  Hopefully society will learn and grow.
Hugs, Jessica 💁

[Allison S]

It's such a relief for me like I can focus on things that matter. I can do my nails, style my hair and wear short skirts. It's not like that's necessarily a gender thing but for me I think society is ->-bleeped-<-ed up anyway. I can see how it's a lot of maintenance and upkeep but I think that's fun. I don't know how being a guy is like really.


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[Michelle_P]

I enjoy the "maintenance stuff" as well.

The details of the feminine social role fascinate me, though. This is the cultural behaviors, the stuff normally learned unconsciously while growing up within a culture. I have to consciously study it to try and get it right.

This includes subtle stuff, like how a woman holds a door open for another woman, stepping through first, rather than the male style of holding the door while standing to one side then stepping through after the woman. I also includes some odd male-female interactions I had never noticed before, such as when a mature male is walking, a woman is expected to step out of his path rather than force him to deviate.

Lots of subtle stuff I've learned by detailed people-watching!


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[pretty pauline]

Hi girls 🙋 I have become more aware of mannerisms of women that I hadn't noticed as clearly.  Women throughout history have had it pretty rough in society.  With this new societal awareness of misogynistic realities has awakened many to the injustices women face.  Women can't show anger lest she be called a shrew or hormonal.  Women can't even love themselves for who they are.  Constantly criticizing themselves for how they look or how they feel.  It's an unfair life that's dominated by men.  Having viewed through eyes of a male, I was not fully clear on how bad it is.  I think with myself, transition towards a feminine viewpoint is my goal and now I also see that being a woman and transgender will be doubly hard.  So much to change becoming a woman that as a man would get privileges that a woman does not.  Hopefully society will learn and grow.
Hugs, Jessica 💁

It's so true Jessica, it is hard being a woman, a price to pay to be our true selves. It's probably harder on a trans woman as we lived in both genders.
We're living in a patriarchal, dominated male society, I remember all them years ago 1 of my brothers tried to change my mind on transition, he said ''he could understand a woman wanting to become a man but could never understand a man wanting to become a woman'' I became a woman to be my true self.
But sometimes it is hard being a woman, things you only notice and feel by living as a woman, guys can get away with just about anything, not worrying or forgetting about appearance, sometimes hubby forgets to shave and it's cool, but I have to be constantly groomed do my hair and makeup, beauty maintenance can be fun but does get tedious.
Now being a married woman, patriarchal is there even more, with business callers etc to my home, it's always ''we''ll  come back later when your husband is home'' and then the manplaining guys, I get them all the time very condescending and patronizing, I had a guy manplaining telling to be careful with a new printer we resently bought, they really must think a housewife is completely dumb weak and vulnerable, welcome to womanhood.
In spite of all that, I love being a woman, I don't think I could ever live as a guy.

[extraaction]

Men are just as pidgeonholed as women in society.  Men have just as much reason to hate the status quo...

But in all seriousness, why live up to the feminine expectations that you dont like.  Nobody is forcing femininity upon us...we accept it. 

[Jailyn]

Don't forget we get marginalized for our knowledge in certain things. I work at Home Depot in the garden center. A man asked me if I knew about the lawn mowers. I replied "Yes, sir. How can I help you?" He said back to me "How do you know about lawn mowers? Are you sure you know about them?" I felt like leaving him right there and cursing him. I left saying to myself. "REALLY!!!!!"

[Julia1996]

Don't forget we get marginalized for our knowledge in certain things. I work at Home Depot in the garden center. A man asked me if I knew about the lawn mowers. I replied "Yes, sir. How can I help you?" He said back to me "How do you know about lawn mowers? Are you sure you know about them?" I felt like leaving him right there and cursing him. I left saying to myself. "REALLY!!!!!"

I get that from guys all the time. Even from my dad and brother. It used to really annoy me but I've kind of gotten used to it.