How do I come out as a Transguy?

[HelloImLucas]

Okay I'm 17 and I have an appointment with my psychiatrist in a few hours and I'm going to come out to him because, I'm ready to start testosterone or at least take some type of step forward. I don't feel comfortable coming out to my parents until a medical professional can tell me they'll help me take the next steps to transition. My parents don't care and talking about personal or any type of mental health they just change the topic and forget it was talked about. They're not transphobic or anything but just a closed family when it comes to your emotions. I have really bad anxiety and I'm terrified to tell my psychiatrist but, I'll feel worse the next day knowing I missed my chance. How exactly do I come out? I'm not sure what to say or what he'll say.

[DawnOday]

Darling. I can tell you how not to do it. I've been struggling for 65 years. Since the 80's I have gone to counseling on six occasions with the  idea that I would come out. Instead I switched gears and said I had stress. So on to 36 group sessions that had nothing to do with what really ailed me. Finally after nearly having a breakdown, I got real and admitted what I had dreaded to reveal.  So far I have had 15 months of HRT. I can't tell you how much better I feel and the best part is that my loved ones have been on board. The truth will set you free. Don't carry it around forever like I did.  There is a lot of help if you look through the Links and the wiki. Especially writing a letter to your parents.

Dawn

[KathyLauren]

Relax.  Just tell the shrink how it is: "I think I might be transgender."  There's no telling what he'll say, but if he's any good, he'll start to deal with it.  He might refer you to someone else, or he may have expertise in the field himself.  But getting the subject out there is the important thing.

Good luck!

[Kylo]

I'd do it the same way as I did to my GP.

"I'd like your advice - for most of my life I've been extremely uncomfortable with my body and my gender, and I'd like to take steps toward medical transition. I'd like to know my options and next steps. Can you help?"

[Elis]

I'd tell him straight 'I'm a trans guy and need hormone treatment'. He may be unknowledgeable about trans stuff so it's best to be direct; so he doesn't then make you have an unnecessary mental health assessment instead of referring you to a gender therapist (does happen sometimes, not to deter you).

As for your parents I feel an email is best. Start with telling them how you felt in the past about your assigned gender, how you feel currently about it and plans for the future. Then include helpful links. You know yourself better than anyone. Don't let them get you down.