I don't want to be Trans!

[Charlie Nicki]

 @ItsDone thank you for sharing your story, I really appreciate it. I'm very early in the process and I have so many fears. My only hope is that when I finally transition fully, I feel the way you do, convinced it was the right decision and that despite life's problems, I am happier.


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[Itsdone]

Nicki I hope so too.
Just be honest with yourself, know yourself then trust your decision.
Looking back now I am amazed that I went through with it.  It really makes me respect the GID part of all this.  No ones knows just how strong the sense of self can be..
Love being real for sure... but it was so hard to get here.
ME

@ItsDone thank you for sharing your story, I really appreciate it. I'm very early in the process and I have so many fears. My only hope is that when I finally transition fully, I feel the way you do, convinced it was the right decision and that despite life's problems, I am happier.


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[CindyLouCovington]

Nobody  with any sense LIKES OR WANTS to be trans.It is a birth defect like others and nothing that anyone  not insane would chose if they had the choice, which we don't. It messes up your life something terrible. Since you have the mind of one sex but were raised as the other, you end up with a screwed up outlook on things especially sex not normal for either gender. some people say that we get to see from both sides but we really don't. We end up with a distorted outlook. so naturally you don't want to be trans, none of us do, it is something we are born with and stuck with. What you do about it is entirely your own business.you certainly should not transition unless you truly want to. If remaing your physical gender is tolerable and you fit in reasonably well stay there.I was always totally out of place in male society so transitioned but that was my own personal choice, Everyone has to decide for themselves what to do.

[JoanneB]

I like simple answers.

You are simply a CD'r. There are plenty of hetero cross-dressers in the world. You are still "Somewhere on the Spectrum", technically trans. If that is where you are happy, which it sounds, why over-think it?

Another simple one, Non-Binary.

All too many times you see the "All in, or All out" mindset. Like being somewhere on the trans-spectrum you are sentenced to life of full social and medical transitioning in order o be happy. You just might not know how profoundly un-happy you are today, but eventually will. Which may be true, just as it all may not be true.

[Tessa James]

While it is always important to respect another person's perspective about their life I consider that some people have been, those we now call, transgender across time and continents.  We have been part of diverse cultures through recorded history.  Sometimes we have been revered or reviled and medical terminology is unhelpfully clinical and dated.  Other animal species demonstrate transgender proclivities as well.  We are born this way and we can embrace that truth or fight it to the death.  I took the later approach for far too long.

I consider transsexualism and people who are transgender to be a normal human variation and part of the evolutionary diversity that ensures our very survival.  Yup, plenty of people do not like or want to be transgender.  That also includes some folks who may reasonably say "that is a part of my past medical history", "I am non longer transgender, I am simply a woman or man or"?  Your call

[tarabel]

This is a really great thread and has some amazing insights.  I cannot really add anything of value, as all of the responses more or less align with where I am at. 

[Laurie]

 Please keep in mind that Gender Dysphoria is an accepted medical condition in the The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Implications that it or being Transgender is a choice is contrary to the policies of this site.

[Virginia 71]

I didn't want to be trans, but I am.  Everyone has to figure out how they will deal with their individual issues.  I thought I had kept my feelings in check and was ok with living as a guy.  Except, for many of those years, I was praying to die because I hated my life.  It wasn't until I began my transition that I became truly happy.  So while I didn't want to be trans, I know I am and I have now dealt with it by fully transitioning and I love being my true self.

This has been my story to a large extent. I am still in the early stages. Just made an appointment to see if HRT is OK for me medically speaking. I imagine probably. Have had some waxing done and had consultation for laser facial hair removal and the test patch went well so I am going to follow through on that.

Its like the whole thing is gaining momentum and I am starting to feel OK with it. I do have concerns. My folks are in their 80's and are not especially progressive with this sort of think. SO, any physical changes I will have to come up with some plausible reason for. Eventually I will tell my siblings and expect several different types of reaction.

It just occurred to me a few weeks ago that when I die the only person I KNOW will be there is myself. The dozens of people I know who would/will have issues likely won't be, so when I check out its ME I need to be OK with, not these other people who want to keep me in a box, so why try to please them?

[Allie24]

 Like any treatment, it is your choice whether or not you wish to undergo it, and there are no 100% guarantees. But don't be scared into doing something you don't feel ready for. If you transition out of fear than things could go very wrong.



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[IzzyM]

I don't want to be Trans, but I wish I had been born a girl rather than a boy, so I think that means I am Trans. There have been many times I have thought "why can't I just be happy as I am?" Some times I can put aside my inner feelings, of wanting to be a woman, at other times nothing else matters.

I know this will sound trite, but there is a journey you have yo go on, one of self discovery. To learn who you really are inside and how best to deal with that person. Once you know that if you decide you don't want to transition, then it doesn't make you any better or any worse a person, it just means that you have decided how you want to live your life.

How do you start that journey? I think most people would agree that finding someone you can talk to about how you feel, and is familiar with transgender issues, is a good start.

[satur9dreamer]

Thank you all. You all rock and i love you!

I don't have the heart to write much more, i need to do some serious work in regards to myself.

I truly appreciate all of you and everything you have contributed.

Stay amazing. There are not enough <3 's in this world

Cordially,

Lavinia