age and hight

[Michellehewlett]

hi i am about a few weeks to a month away from starting hormones i am 28 i am 6.4'5 i have some hang up about eventually being able to pass it's come up with my family a few times. i know i won't pass like i would had i started at 18
it came up in a joint therapy session with my gender therapist and my family, the other thing that came up is there concerns about any future relationships as i still really want a family one day and they where making me feel it was next to imposable. if i could go stealth i would maybe one day at work but i like my friends everyone who knows is very supportive same with most of my family. i guess i have a lot of fears i am planning on freezing seem before i start
so i am doing every thing right as far as surgery goes eventually being i am Canadian i can get some covered by the government and gender identity and expression are considered human rights so thats a very good thing to. i guess
these are the things i worry the most about the chance i won't pass is not stoping me from transition its just something on my mind

[Dani]

Michelle,

A few women are tall, but they are usually very thin.  There is very little we can do about our height with the exception of getting really old. At age 60 or more, it is common for people to lose a few inches, but that is a long way off for you.

What is your weight, may I ask? Trimming down to your ideal weight will go a long way for passing as female. In this area, I speak from personal experience. I lost over 100 pounds. It still is a struggle to keep my weight down.

Hormone therapy has done wonderful things for many of us here. It just does not happen overnight. Most of us have been on HRT for 2 to 3 years before we are gendered correctly in public. Because of this delay in others perceiving us  as we feel we are, there is a lot of anxiety in transition. Will I be pretty? Will others respect me for myself? The list goes on. The only relief I found is talking to other people going through transition like I did.

[Michellehewlett]

i am around 86Kg i think thats 176 or so
for the most part i eat pretty healthy i have a naturopath i work with
who is supportive

[Jailyn]

Agreed with Dani!!! I also feel that being passable is part looks, confidence, happiness and just how you come into the room. We put a lot into looks and it's not all looks. I feel I don't pass all that well looks wise but, I get gendered 99% of the time with only 9 months in. I don't do anything special that I am aware of. So you can be passable at any height. I say that because I live in a college town where we have a basketball team and volleyball team. Several of them are as tall as you or taller. They are beautiful every time I see them in wal-mart. So passability is also a frame of mind too. If a person in drag can pass, so can all of us that are taking hormones. Age in transition helps too as you were saying but, it is not the end of the world for passability as far as transitioning later. I have seen many that are not teens and transitioning. They look beautiful and i would not be able to tell. So we shouldn't put so much pressure on ourselves. Good luck girl and be confident in your new skin!!!!!

[Sydney_NYC]

I was 43 and 6'7" when I started my journey four years ago. I won the genetic lottery and was able to start passing at 3½ months on HRT and in the first year and a half lost nearly 2 inches in height to my current height of 6'5¼". Confidnence, mannerisms and voice also go a long way in passing and can often overcome minor physical masculine traits if there are enough feminine traits to offset it.

Your never too tall and your never too old to transition!!!!
 

[DawnOday]

It appears you are receiving the most important support. Acceptance. More than passing. There is nothing better than being able to present as yourself and have people be accepting. Especially early on as this transformation takes a long time.

[LexiDreamer]

I was 43 and 6'7" when I started my journey four years ago. I won the genetic lottery and was able to start passing at 3½ months on HRT and in the first year and a half lost nearly 2 inches in height to my current height of 6'5¼". Confidnence, mannerisms and voice also go a long way in passing and can often overcome minor physical masculine traits if there are enough feminine traits to offset it.

Your never too tall and your never too old to transition!!!!
 

Sydney has the right idea here.
Being correctly gendered or mis-gendered is a result of the summation of all your gender cues.
Obviously, some cues have a higher value than others... i.e. voice, dress and mannerisms.
Physical attributes are quite variable in value compared to the above 3.
Luckily, the 3 I mentioned are easy to modify compared to most physical attributes.
When you really start presenting yourself as a woman, most people will default to addressing you as one, no matter what your body shape is.
Being that you're 28, starting HRT soon will have a much better outcome (physicaly) than if started 10 years from now.
I also struggled (and still do from time to time) about my "passabillity", as I started HRT at 40.
What I've noticed is that... as I continue down this road, it's really less about what other people feel about me and more about how I feel about myself.
Maybe, I'll never be 100% passable... But it's not going to make me go back to being a man. I am just resigned to doing the best with what I have.
And now that I over 2 years into HRT, when I look in the mirror, I see a woman... the man I used to be is long gone.
Just work on the things you can change and don't sweat the things you can't.

Remember, happiness does not come from others, it comes from inside your own heart and mind.

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[LexiDreamer]

One more thought...
I have a transgender friend that is quite gorgeous and can easily pass wherever she goes...
That is until she says something!
Her voice gives her away every time. It can actually be quite jarring...
The first time I met her I really thought she was a cis-woman until she said "hello"!
It was just like one of those "Woe! Didn't expect that!" moments.
I can't stress how important voice presentation is.

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