This is quite an interesting thread. I feel like I am reading a mirror to my own approach. I felt the need to press on the gas pedal but the harder I hit the acceleration the more challenging it was to bring those along that I hoped would be with me on the ride. So, the last few years have been at the speed of a moped and at times glacial but we are making it through.
I don't think there is any right or wrong way. There is just what we can manage and what those around us can handle at the time.
I have come to appreciate how challenging this is for our partners and some kids. My partner and I worked in a lot of kids books with different types of families and gender creative kids which helped them process things. I got to the end of the book George and basically blurted out that I feel like that. Lol, it wasn't the most graceful coming out but that was one of those interesting moments where best laid plans seem to go out the window!
It sounds like your child is adapting, which is fantastic. My daughters now love putting things in my hair and hopefully you and your family can find a few lighter moments to grab on to. My partner is much more at ease because my 6 and 10 year old have adjusted so easily. I wish you and your family well no matter what route it ultimately takes.
