Hi!
I've been hanging around here quite a while now and I can tell you this:
This site & the support I've gotten here has reminded me of the gender euphoria I experience whenever I'm treated as a man. When you are not treated as yourself often, it can mess up your mind! Whatever that means to you (the way you want to be treated).
At least it reminded me how BADLY I want to be seen as a dude. So, I can emphasize that you should pay attention to your feelings first and foremost. They can be your guide.
Here is a link to my first thread where I asked about T - and got many very good answers.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,230592.0.htmlYou should go check that up!
What I've concluded from that one and generally after hanging around here, is, that honestly - if I want to be read as a man constantly/automatically, I need to start T.
Quote from: mischief_brew on December 13, 2017, 12:34:19 PM
It's easy to end up trying to look for other people to give you answers when ultimately only you can know what your feelings are, and what you need to do to feel like yourself. The problem for me is that my anxiety makes it hard to know what desires are my own and what I feel would make things easier for other people.
This! I also got a very good advice from Ryuichi, this:
Either way you decide, realize that NO ONE is pressing you to do what you don't want to do! Take your time, do the research, ask questions, ask opinions, and do what's best for YOU, and no one else!I have a little access problem myself... But I'm planning on starting the path to get T. If I'm completely honest with you, I still don't like the idea that I 'have' to get on T. I'd like to think I look 'male/guy enough' as I am and wouldn't need it. BUT: the truth is my life is miserable right now & I do want to be seen as a man, rather than a woman. And T will sort that out! Plus, as for me, I actually do want those changes that T can offer: more masculine face, being read as a guy all the time, more masculine body/frame, more masculine shoulder/hip ratio. But I still do not like the idea that I 'have to get on it' if you know what I mean!
But I've in this short period of time made peace with myself. And approach the future from a curious point of view, instead of anxious. This site has been a huge help! If you'd like to read my other posts, go ahead! I've found that hearing others have had exactly the same experiences has made me less anxious about this. I feel like I'm 'in good hands' here & can & do get support when I need it. I recommend the same to you,
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! Come to hang out in here more often!
I'm still a little concerned about the way my face will change (I like my face), the way my voice will drop (I'm okay with my voice plus sing) etc. But overall I'd like to be seen as a guy. And to that - T is like the magic solution,
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So hope this helped.
So, you need to concentrate on those things that make you happy. They come first. Then you need to make a decision on what you
need to make you more happy. If you for example absolutely hate to be seen as a woman, for example, then T might do some good for ya
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! But hanging around on this forum is what I highly recommend.
I'm already at a point where I start to feel excited about the idea that I could actually start looking like a cis guy in the mirror
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! And actually start to have a body like that. Just being in here on this forum has gotten rid most of my internilized transphobia, panic & anxiety concerning that. Highly recommend
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!!!!!
Tip: You can start by reading through my threads - they are plentiful
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- in the transsexual section! They might make you more relaxed as you hear that many people go through doubts etc. And we are after all just normal people
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I still don't like the idea of the acne part... etc. But I feel at peace right now. Plus I know it's not like I can get on T tomorrow, so knowing that might help as well. I mean, concentrate on the little steps that lead you there wherever you need to be. And it's not like I'm gonna grow a beard in a moment, either. Might take a year. Or two years. Or five! Or might happen never. So... you and your body have plenty of time to adjust to those changes,
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For me it just comes down to the fact that I
need to look more masculine & be read as a guy to be truly happy with myself. And with T I can achieve that. So I stopped being afraid,
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