Came out to kids today

[Denise]

Trudie,

I, like the others here, are both sorry for the challenges you're having with the Mrs. And proud for your successful coming out to your daughters.

I liken coming out to close relationships akin to cleaning out the garage.  You make a huge mess all over the lawn and then put it all back neatly.  In the end, you will have a cleaner more functional garage but boy, what a mess we make doing it.

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[Gertrude]

Trudie,

I, like the others here, are both sorry for the challenges you're having with the Mrs. And proud for your successful coming out to your daughters.

I liken coming out to close relationships akin to cleaning out the garage.  You make a huge mess all over the lawn and then put it all back neatly.  In the end, you will have a cleaner more functional garage but boy, what a mess we make doing it.

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I agree for the most part. It depends on ones circumstances. I've seen some never get things together again and there are some that it works without bumps or anything real bad. Support is a big deal. I remember reading Jennifer Finney Boylan's book and it struck me on what a difference his sister in law made, who was a lesbian minister. If she didn't have her sister in law in her life, I don't think it would have gone so well. The kids were great too. Most of us don't have that kind of support. In my case, I broke the ice as it were, and put a course and a heading in the navigation system. I don't think it will be full steam ahead, but I won't be stuck where I was. It occurred to me that part of it is making a decision and showing the we're comfortable with who we really are. I wonder maybe some need to understand we're serious and committed to authenticity. Some day these worries and travails won't exist when being trans will just be another expression of what is human to those that aren't trans. The other thing that's been hitting Home with me and it's not only with trans issues, is that never underestimate the amount of ignorance and even stupidity of the public. I don't mean that in a condescending way, but one of surprise.


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[Gertrude]

Went to therapy on Thursday. He was happy for me, said it went well. He's really encouraging change for me. He had some surprising words about my wife.  He usually isn't that animated.


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