I didn't ask to be trans, I'm just trying to live a life where I don't have to hide myself anymore. I'm sorry I couldn't keep denying that there was something wrong at the very core of my being. I tried for 50 years to live the way society dictated. I may have been happy, but the trans beast was always lurking in the background. Hiding a big secret like this for 50 years, it was bound to erupt. There was no incident or anything that caused it to erupt when it did. I just couldn't do it any more. Just because I'm lucky enough to have sought help before it drove me insane or worse doesn't make it less real or easier or less painful for me. I really tried to keep it down and deal with this on my own. To the point of herbal testosterone supplements. They seemed to help for a while but the beast would re-emerge even stronger. The last time i tried this it came back so strongly that I new I couldn't do it on my own.
I get called selfish and told I didn't think of anyone else. Yes I did. For 50 years I did and pushed my true self down. Aren't the people that I'm supposed to think of supposed to think of me also? Because I'm the one that's different, I have to just live with it so others aren't uncomfortable?
I know being trans doesn't excuse past behavior, but it certainly can explain some of the how or why. I know I haven't been a great person. I don't deny it and have apologized endlessly. I don't need to be reminded of it constantly.
I know people see me as a freak. I know what I look like. When I get called ma'am or miss I don't think I'm fooling them. I think they are seeing my gender presentation and being good people and treating me accordingly.
I'm sorry if maybe my clothes aren't what most women wear. I wish I looked female enough to just throw on any old jeans and t-shirt or what have you. I know all women don't wear skirts or dresses as often as I do. Well this woman does and she likes them.
I wish I didn't need to use as much makeup as I use. It's not about being a certain type of woman, or having a certain look. It's what I need to feel right in my skin. Please remember that I didn't get to learn this as a teenager. And so what if I want to look nice? Why is there something wrong with that? It doesn't mean I'm trying to attract anyone. I dress for me, to make me feel normal.
I didn't grow up as female so there are somethings I will never know or relate to.
I believe there isn't a trans woman anywhere that wouldn't have gladly suffered periods etc. if it meant having the right body. But that doesn't make me any less of a woman. Different yes, but a woman nonetheless. And all I want is to be seen and treated as such.
Call me by my chosen name and use the proper pronouns. I know you won't always get it right if you've known me for a long time, but please try.
I'm just trying to be me as best I know how.
End of rant.
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