Quote from: Oldandcreaky on April 29, 2024, 07:45:54 AMI have a half-friend who still bemoans her long-a mouldering mother. Her equally a mouldering resentments have half-buried her.
Allowing resentment to continue after a person is gone really serves no purpose, other than to allow their continued control over your happiness. Once they're gone, let them go.
A lot is going on right now. I had to take an unexpected day off work. I got access to my dad's checking account late yesterday (I have a Power of Attorney), and I discovered evidence of financial abuse. Hundreds of checks totaling well over $200,000. I downloaded all of the canceled checks from my dad's bank. I know who the 'abuser' is, and I have contacted state authorities. I am in unfamiliar territory now, and I hope none of you ever have to deal with something like this.
I have custody of my dad's cell phones. One of the phones was ringing, so I decided to answer. It was an uncle I had not spoken to in decades, my mom's last surviving sibling. He was a bit confused until I said who I was, then he asked about my dad. I filled him in on my dad's ever-changing condition (currently back in the emergency room). After several minutes of conversation, he mentioned that I sound just like my mom. I took that as a compliment. He then asked about my brothers, I told him I see 'G' every week or two, but 'C' passed away about five years ago. Then he asked about 'J', my deadname. I told him that was my old name, that I transitioned about six years ago. He was quiet for a few seconds, then said 'oh, OK'. We then talked about the farm where he and my mom grew up, and about some of the non-standard pets they had (coyote, javelina, deer). At the end of our conversation, I gave him my phone number. It was a sudden, totally unexpected coming out, but it went well.
My dad went to an oncology appointment this morning. His blood pressure was so low they called 911. Right now he is an an emergency room. Cancer may not kill him directly, but the aftermath of his surgery has enabled other health issues to become life threatening.
Love always -- Jess