I have no family to turn to with this. My Mother, the one I thought would at least try to understand, has since latched onto the 'trans people are just autistic and obsessive' study she read on
yahoo.com a while ago and has since started wathing shows like 'the A word' and projecting onto me.
Oh that kid does stuff you did as a kid, so it must be autism, you must be autistic.
Oh so youre going to the gender services? probably will find out youre just obsessed with the subject.
Have been the last two conversation enders Ive had when I tried to talk about the gender stuff (which the head of leeds gender identity services is convinced Im actually a strong candidate for gender dysphoria). I get home and tell her and she doesnt want to talk about it till 'later.'
Thing is the autism thing pisses me off because I went through testing at school for that when they found out I had dyspraxia (a physical coordination disorder) and I struggled to develop my coordination to the level where nobody would think twice about it. The fact she's jumping on that infuriates me and hurts me terribly.
I am constantly ignored when I ask family members not to comment on my body (they do this a lot, because Im broad shouldered and hairy) but they ignore my requests because I am sensitive about it and when I protest I am treated like a difficult child rather than someone who has asked for a boundry to be respected and is ignored.
Im starting to feel I need to move away and transition during a period of zero contact