It's pretty hard for many people to just "out oneself" all at once to everyone ... In fact, the fear of reprisals holds some back forever. In my case, I went "step by step". Yes, I had breast development and SRS over 30 years ago, but I kept that hidden for a long time from everyone. Eventually I just grew my hair longer. Slowly but surely I wore more feminine clothing ... Not dresses, just V-neck tops & ladies jeans etc. I had my ears pierced and wore earrings ... but lots of guys do that. I had permanent eyeliner & lip-liner makeup done, so I couldn't hide that more feminine look there. I started wearing nail polish. Understand that all of this was happening over a slow, methodical period of time ... Time enough to essentially interface with everyone. Then I went for permanent eye-shadow makeup. My optician suggested some "more feminine looking frames" ... It was starting to work! I started wearing more and more "revealing" tops everywhere. I let my hair go down to my shoulders, and now I was wearing more "dangly" style earrings, and I started wearing lip-stain to darken my lips. Eventually people started asking why I never wore a dress. So I started obliging them. Every now and then I'd be in a dress at a place where I hadn't seen a person in quite a while, but the reaction was always "I wondered when you were going to finally do that" ... So you see, in my case it was an "evolutionary" process, not a shock to anyone. It was gradual enough that even my wife slowly tolerated each little step along the way .. So my message is, if you're afraid of jumping all at once into the "deep end", try the "wading in" approach ... It worked for me! Even with my brothers! Life is too short to deny who we really are, so find a way to complete that transition! Just my two cents worth ... Roberta