Other than mindfulness and distracting yourself what are the best ways everyone has helped deal with

[FinallyMichelle]

🙂 Okay.

I honestly don't see why you would not pass. If nothing else your smile is compelling, I have a terrible time smiling for a camera, you look incredible. 🙂

Fear is insidious.

Have you ever seen a hollow child? A child without hope? If you meet one, you know it, they don't seem quite real. Like nothing touches them. You cannot touch them really, their life is worse than can be endured but they have to keep on living anyway. They know fear deeper, far deeper than most can imagine.

Grr! Hard for me to stop crying now damn it!

This is the same to a degree.
Okay, struggling here, sorry.

You have no choice. This f'n sucks beyond what most can endure. I can't sugar coat that. But you will, you will endure this. You don't know that yet but I do.

Since starting to transition I have been made fun of, insulted, lost family and friends, lost my job, had my right eye socket broken, skull fractured behind my right ear, right hip broken and 119 stitches to put the pieces back together. And...

Found happiness.

This is it. This is our life. You are going to do fine.

[Courtney.lane408]

[emoji846] Okay.

I honestly don't see why you would not pass. If nothing else your smile is compelling, I have a terrible time smiling for a camera, you look incredible. [emoji846]

Fear is insidious.

Have you ever seen a hollow child? A child without hope? If you meet one, you know it, they don't seem quite real. Like nothing touches them. You cannot touch them really, their life is worse than can be endured but they have to keep on living anyway. They know fear deeper, far deeper than most can imagine.

Grr! Hard for me to stop crying now damn it!

This is the same to a degree.
Okay, struggling here, sorry.

You have no choice. This f'n sucks beyond what most can endure. I can't sugar coat that. But you will, you will endure this. You don't know that yet but I do.

Since starting to transition I have been made fun of, insulted, lost family and friends, lost my job, had my right eye socket broken, skull fractured behind my right ear, right hip broken and 119 stitches to put the pieces back together. And...

Found happiness.

This is it. This is our life. You are going to do fine.

Awh now I'm crying too!! this post really touched my heart. I really really appreciate you and that you took the time to write such a meaningful and real post. You are incredible and I really look up to people like you. Way to kick lifes ass despite the ->-bleeped-<-tty hand you were dealt being born in the wrong body. Hopefully I can be as awesome as you!


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[FinallyMichelle]

Sorry! Didn't mean to make you cry. 🙂

Nothing special about me. 😊 Wait! I can lick the tip of my nose, that count?

Always here baby girl. You got this though.
Hugs

[VaxSpyder]

I'm feeling the love!  Whenever we feel anxiety about our transition, let's try to remember all those who have struggled with the same anxiety and overcame it. 

[pamelatransuk]

But Half way there is still better than not doing anything. Every bit of feminization is an improvement for sure.
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I'm feeling the love!  Whenever we feel anxiety about our transition, let's try to remember all those who have struggled with the same anxiety and overcame it. 

Courtney - That is the way I look at it. Every bit of feminization is a step forward and a plus to our wellbeing and self esteem. However I sympathise and I regret I will never be Cis.

VaxSpyder - Precisely. It is wonderful to see/witness/share/receive such love in posts such as this on Susans.

Pamela

[Charlie Nicki]

Love this, thanks Nicki [emoji1317] and btw you ARE beautiful from what I can see in your avatar!


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Thank you!

[krobinson103]

Yes the general public will be honest in how they see you for the most part. Until hrt is given the time it needs, there's no gaurantee. I think the longer you're on hrt the more you'll feminize. Now, as far as how others will perceive and gender you.. I actually think that's a gamble sometimes. Is it worth it?

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Of course its worth it. I can get up every morning and say "good morning beautiful person' to myself and MEAN it. I can be happy and have REAL emotions for the first time in my life. I like the skin I am in, and I can be confident. If others don't see it that way or seek to belittle me for stepping away from the herd then i couldn't care less.

[RobynD]

I do both mindfulness and lots of distraction. The latter includes healthy stuff like exercise. This is how i deal with most emotional challenges. Sometimes i have success, sometimes not. Life is hard at times.

One thing i did fairly early was to train my mind not to care about blending in. Much easier said then done and i'm sure it doesn't work for everyone. Instead i focused on looking my best (health and body wise), dressing to the style that i like and relationships with other people. The more people the better, and with those relationships have come affirmations that are important to me. I'm an extrovert and my energy is drained when i am alone. Overall i am content with my looks  but still self critical as most of us are. I think that contentment has actually been a key to me blending in.

[Michelle_P]

Sometimes I take on too much of the burden for other people's problems. Their problems only become my problem if they foolishly choose to assault me verbally or physically.  I honestly have to face that I don't meet their cultural biases or "standards", and may confuse, disturb, or annoy others by the fact that I exist.  But... 

WE HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO EXIST

It is not our problem if somebody has invested themselves in the broken cis-gender binary model.

It is not our problem if someone else is uncomfortable in their transphobia.

It is not our responsibility to educate every misinformed or prurient individual on the planet.

It is not our responsibility to give command performances to entertain the cispeople.

Our job is to be our beautiful selves, our best, most authentic selves as we transcend gender.

We may choose to educate others, at a time and place we are comfortable with.

Our bodies, our lives, our choices!

[Courtney.lane408]

I do both mindfulness and lots of distraction. The latter includes healthy stuff like exercise. This is how i deal with most emotional challenges. Sometimes i have success, sometimes not. Life is hard at times.

One thing i did fairly early was to train my mind not to care about blending in. Much easier said then done and i'm sure it doesn't work for everyone. Instead i focused on looking my best (health and body wise), dressing to the style that i like and relationships with other people. The more people the better, and with those relationships have come affirmations that are important to me. I'm an extrovert and my energy is drained when i am alone. Overall i am content with my looks  but still self critical as most of us are. I think that contentment has actually been a key to me blending in.

Thanks Robyn! I appreciate the practical and useful advice. I'm right there with you with exercise... if I'm feeling really anxious about everything or my dysphoria is hurting me I just run and run and run until the physical pain is great enough that it forces its self to the front of my mind pushing all the other emotional issues out. I actually just finished my first marathon ever this year!!  Better than my old strategy of just smoking weed all day everyday to numb myself that's for sureee [emoji106]


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[Jessica]

Hi, new to the thread.  My thought is that if you look at all the different ways women can appear, and if  you go by Bo Derek's movie "10", you could find every woman on that scale.
If you people watch women, you will find 'drop dead gorgeous' to homely.  That is reality.
After an afternoon, you may find that many women have masculine features just as easy as men can seem feminine, and that you could find the same flaws in transgender people.
It's attitude, mannerisms and the knowledge that you are who you are, coupled with medical transition, that make you pass to yourself and others.
And we all are on the same scale, somewhere.

Jessica