Everytime somebody is in pain, I don't know what to say.
Most of you will know how that feels: you want to extend your hand, but don't know how: you want to say something very meaningful, without sounding like an old cliché.
I've been through severe situations in my life - endured physical abuse for more than a decade and spent another decade wrestling with my brain, which had decided to mentally and emotionally recreate everything I'd been through. Only in the third decade I discovered that I was not who I thought it was.
And then everything starts to turn around. Because when you cease to be an old persona - you suddenly start from scratch. You'll still carry old wounds, and you'll still have all the memories belonging to the old persona, but you will realize that's not YOU.
And if you discovered your true identity after all this time, hidden somewhere deep within, dormant, that means there are lots of other qualities you do have but that you haven't yet seen: and when you let go of all the judgements you had about your old persona, suddenly there will be space for them to come to the fore.
When you are in a tunnel and all you see is darkness, it's very easy to think that you are nothing more than can be seen at first hand, that there is nothing more that can be seen at first hand, but add some light and dimensions will start to shift, new spaces revealed. Do not trust feelings of doom - they are merely an emotion.
Doom is rarely what it really is. Impending doom, rather than finality, signals transformation. And transformation might feel terrifying, like the world is ending, like nothing is safe, and nobody supports you: but in the end, when you crawl through that tunnel out towards the light, you suddenly realize how strong you were all along.
That's all.
