Hi

[Dr_Who_Ace]

I'm new here and  I have been thinking a little bit about my gender identity as such,  I have been feeling that this make transgender or Gender Dysphoria. For example, I have imagined my self as a woman when I'm alone and it does make feel happy. I'm born as a man and find the thought of being a woman appealing. But I don't know how to approach the feeling if it is something?  I like to find how what are your thought's on this (I have dyslexia and Aspergers)

(What make me think I may be transgender)


t thoughts that have been in the back of my mind from time to time and such and have tried to have relationships in the normal sense yet they either not worked. I feel like I may want to be someone else as it were. As it were a lesbian if I were a woman. Also thinking in my past where I was bullied at school just for being my self really that more the Aspergers really, but when I was talking to a psychologist and there was a sandbox and we could use thing to make an image of how I felt and that and I had a small pin badge of Willow from Buffy and said that was me, as I felt that time I want to be someone else.

this time I'm aged 14/15 and this part may come off a bit odd. I did sometimes fill water balloons to make breasts and wear my mother bra and did turn me on to the thought of it.

[Jessica]

Welcome to Susan's Place!  I'm Jessica a transgender woman.  I think a good step would be to seek out a therapist with experience in gender dysphoria.  They can help you learn how to take your first steps if you need to.
I see your new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site.  

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[Dr_Who_Ace]

does it matter that I'm 30 years of age?

[V M]

Hi there 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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V M

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Age doesn't matter. We have members who came to us in their early teens and one a couple of days ago at age 73. People are able to deny their feeling for a long time but sooner or latter they come to the surface and need to be addressed. Because you are unsure, I have a couple of links for you to look at. The first is our WIKI where you will learn more about what it's like to be transgender. The second is "the transition channel" where you can explore your feelings and see if you might be transsexual. Let us know if you have additional questions and we will do our best to answer them.

[Jessica]

does it matter that I'm 30 years of age?

I knew something was up in my teens.  I'm started hrt 8 months ago at age 61 and have never felt better.
Age has no bearing on who you are.
A restrictive society does not change who you are either.  It only dictates how you should be.
Society is changing.

[JulieAllana]

Hiyas!
      I am 41.  Starting also as a teenager I had fantasies of wanting to be a woman, but never thought it was something that I would be able to do.  I was big (broad) and overweight and didn't think I would ever be able to pass.  Additionally, while I wanted to be a woman, I wasn't interested in girlie things and I didn't feel very feminine.  As a result I was just confused and I wound up pushing my feelings away and trying my best to ignore them.  As I got older the feelings just got stronger and stronger and harder to push away, causing me anxiety and depression and I didn't know why.
   
     A month ago, I figured it out, I WANT TO BE A WOMAN AND I AM GOING TO BE A WOMAN!  I found a therapist and started losing weight (down 45 pounds as of this morning) and started taking steps to to feminize my life.  I have come out to my wife and mother and a few select friends.  I feel like I have lost so much time that should have been spent as my true self.  Well, I am not going to waste any more time. 

    So, 30 is DEFINITELY not too late.  If you think that you want to be a woman, even if you are not sure, you owe it to yourself to be open about it and to explore those feelings.  As some have previously stated, a therapist who specializes in gender issues is a great place to start.  Also, not everyone needs to transition fully to womanhood to meet their emotional needs, we are all different.

     Good luck and ask us anything.  I have found the community here warm and welcoming and willing to address all of my questions so far and many of us seem eager to pay it forward.

                Julie

[Dr_Who_Ace]

Hi all thanks for the advice, I'm mealy trying to get my ducks in a row as it where, but I will ask a fair few questions as I want to know if there connections or not as such. As I look at people like Ellen Page and think I like to date a girl like that and yet at the time, I have imagined my self as her, if that makes sense?