It seems to me that they are separate issues but because of attitude of the general population there they are linked in a scary way. I love Laerte, her art and the way she interprets life, I have often wondered though if her social status is the reason for her being accepted. I have seen the videos and read the stories of the violence against trans people in your country, it hurts and scares me so deep that it always takes me days to recover. I don't think, from what I have seen, that Brazilians consider themselves Hispanic or Latino, is that correct? I do think the same religious/machismo mentality are at the core though. The largest group of people that directed anger at me here in the north east USA have been Hispanic men. It is like I can feel the anger and hatred coming off of them. Not all, please don't misunderstand, it is not all Hispanic people or even men, but the ones that are like that are really bad. I don't know how to help you with that, I am sorry. Maybe moving if possible? Would that be an option for you?
As to the other part. 😁 Here I can hopefully give you another viewpoint. Are you ready?
Men are easy.
Men
Are
Easy.
It's that simple. Now don't anyone take offense 😆 it's not in any way derogatory, more an exasperation for us. They just want something warm and wet to put their pride and joy into. You are making them out to be way more discerning than they actually are. One of the guys at work who was really bad about making fun of me was called out on it one day by one of his friends. He said, "Oh, I would 'F' him, so would most of you, I just like giving him a hard time." Grr! I was so happy to leave there! There are so many more bisexual men than people know, trust me when I say having a penis is not a problem. I have only dated men who consider themselves "straight" not one has ever shown any hesitation over my stupid little birth defect. The majority actually wanted to feel like they were taking care of me so they tried to um... well you know what I mean. Not happening, no way, but they were open to it.
Where you live it is more difficult for people to be who they truly are, so it will change some things, maybe everything in the what a man WILL do as opposed to what a man WANTS to do. You have to know though that you can be as desirable to a man as any cis woman. I have seen it first hand, repeatedly. Six months ago I would tell men that hit on me when I was out with my friends in a safe environment that I was trans, so they would leave me alone. I don't bother anymore, I just say, Sorry, I am just having a night out with the girls. I stopped saying I was trans because 85% of them immediately said that they didn't care, 10% thought about it and said okay, and 5% looked like they would kill me if they could. That is scary, only one out of the maybe 20 guys that have approached me was like that, but that was enough. Why risk it when most men don't care at all anyway. One actually argued with me that I wasn't trans. Lol. When you say to a guy that knows you are trans jokingly that you wouldn't do that to him and he looks you right in the eye and says you can do whatever you want to me. I don't know, you just kind of lose that fear as you learn that men don't care.
Again, where you live... I have no idea. My heart goes out to you. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on feel free to PM me.
Hugs