I think context matters a bit. There is a person transitioning where I work and when in meetings without her, she's referred to by he by some, even though they use the female name. They're struggling because their brain is trained to identify that person as a certain gender. It takes time and it's getting better. If they don't know you, it's different. They rely on their biases. Someone worldly and astute will treat someone as they present gender wise regardless of passing or not. It's respectful. Some folks aren't there yet and might never be.
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