Quote from: MelanieMyrtille on March 01, 2018, 09:38:42 AM
I just figure the more convincing I can present the better I will be accepted and taken seriously by others.
Of course, this is something I want, too; and, since I don't pass, there will always be some people who will look at me as a man in a dress and laugh, or disapprove, and not take me seriously. Even though I'm developing a much thicker skin than I ever imagined, these things do still bother me.
But you'll be surprised how often you encounter the other kind of person, who understands and accepts you as you are. I used to think this was unusual; but it isn't. It happens all the time.
As in so many other areas of life, self-confidence guides others in how they view and treat you. The more confident you are, the more you attract others (in a good way). And, for me, the key to gaining confidence was to transform my presentation slowly but definitely, as Kendra was saying. I didn't plan it that way; I just had to change, and I did it slowly because I was terrified of the reactions of others. It wasn't until later that I realized what had happened to my confidence level.
Maybe this will work for you, too.
There will always be people who do not accept us. But that's not just a problem that trans people encounter. There are all kinds of bigotry and hatred in the world. Like others who suffer these slings and arrows, I think we need to just ignore such people and focus on the good, on those who
do accept us as we are, and go on.