Turn for the Worst (Mindless Banter- just need someone to hear)

[jessilynn]

I hate electrolysis. And my electrologist, well shes no better. I have a VERY low pain tollerance for someone zapping my crotch area. And she is giving me ultimatums stating "If you cant lay for more than 45 minutes, I WILL drop you as a client."

I mean you kinda have to understand how bad it hurts. Rather than giving me ultimatums and threatening me, how about you LISTEN when I say "OW! I NEED A BREAK!"
The last time, I walked out of that office crying because she went hog wild, and told me basically to deal with it, and never stopped when I asked for a break.
And nothing works. I never have time to take breaths, and when I listen to music to "distract myself" it's "That music is WAY too loud, you need to turn it down or OFF" And she takes offense of my religion, because when I start to pray to Lilith, she says "That god is evil" I never can catch a break

I am doing laser too, but I cant do just laser aparently- I have too many light hairs.
And unfortunately, even if I needed another electrologist, there are no others that my insurance will cover in the area.

OH! I also found out Kaiser does not do Follicle scraping during surgery, because they just suck that bad.

I mean I cant enjoy my weekends. I prefer to be abused and tormented at work, rather than have a weekend, where I know I will have to go for electrolysis. I just hate it. I hate it!
Because of the electrolysis, and the electrologist themselves, I have thought many times of throwing in the towel.

Yet it appears that she will do it for me, I have this last session, and this is the one that she said "If you cant sit for longer than 45 minutes, I will drop you as a client."

She just makes me cry, and makes me feel like a wimp, a cry baby, and a nothing in general... :,(

[jessica95]

Ah, i googled and found out it's treatment for removing hair. Hmm, i have nothing more to say than , please just push forward and never ever give up. Congrats, hope it turns out good in the end, seems like you could whitstand the pain!

[Sephirah]

She just makes me cry, and makes me feel like a wimp, a cry baby, and a nothing in general... :,(

You are not any of these things, sweetie. By the sounds of it, she is just really, really unprofessional. And sounds like a bit of a nasty person, imho. Someone who takes stuff out on her clients. I've met people like that in my life. When I had physiotherapy a few years back, I swear the person doing it ran a basement dungeon on the weekend, had a whip fetish, and preferred being called "Mistress."

I am really, really sorry you're stuck in a place you don't want to be. Having a low pain tolerance isn't unusual. I wonder how she would deal with it if it were the other way around. You're not any of those things she makes you feel like, okay? You're not. I always feel that people like that, who can't maintain the simple standards of professionalism in their jobs, and make their clients/customers feel bad, have something going on themselves which bleeds through into their work.

Hang in there, hon. And if it helps, try to remember that every time you finish a session, it's one closer to the point where you don't have to deal with her anymore. You are strong, okay? Hell you've gone through more than she's ever likely to do, or even know about, just to get to where you are. You are someone. Someone valuable and beautiful. And you are not a wimp. People shouldn't treat you that way. Especially people who are being paid to provide a service. But anyone, really. It's not your fault. It isn't.

*extra big hug*

Keep going, sweetie. You're getting there with every step. You can do it. I believe in you.

[tgirlamg]

HI Jessilynn!

So sorry you have to deal with that kind of attitude when dealing with something like this... I don't know if you can go outside the area you are in but I flew to Phoenix AZ for my electrolysis... They can legally use lidocaine injection there to numb you and it helps the pain level of the process immensely!!!

Hugs!!!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

[Bari Jo]

Hearing stories like this makes me want to become an Electrologist, move to your area and steal all her customers!  She sounds horrid!

There are ways to make it less painful.  Hopefully she's giving some of these tips.

1.  No caffeine for it least 12 hours prior.
2.  Drink lots of water for hours prior.
3.  Breathing techniques.
4.  Numbing cream (not all Electrologists allow this)
5.  Stress balls.  I prefer a glove with ice cubes in it tied off.  I concentrate on the cold rather than the pain.

Beyond that, can you go to a different Electrologist?  Mine is great, but in socal.

Bari Jo

[jessilynn]

I did tell her how she makes me feel... I confessed to her about it. And she said "You know why I do it, why I degrade you like I do right?" I nodded no "Because I know you're stronger than you let on. I know you can do this, and work through it. I do every day." And then she divulged to me that she is actually going through pre-cancer treatments... which.... do not feel good.

And to BarryJo, yes she does allow creams, I FINALLY got approved to get a Benzocaine, Tetracaine, Lidocaine compounded cream. However she does NOT want me to have ice in my hand, Someone else had told me that trick, and I tried it, I ended up slamming it on my crotch as soon as she turned away. However she does NOT allow ice by any means. She said it freezes the skin to the point where it's hard for her to gain entry.

Stress balls, hurt... my fingernails are not the strongest. I look at them and they break.

However I found out my Compounded cream, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen work wonders for about 25-30 minutes.

[Danielle79]

I did tell her how she makes me feel... I confessed to her about it. And she said "You know why I do it, why I degrade you like I do right?" I nodded no "Because I know you're stronger than you let on. I know you can do this, and work through it. I do every day." And then she divulged to me that she is actually going through pre-cancer treatments... which.... do not feel good.

And to BarryJo, yes she does allow creams, I FINALLY got approved to get a Benzocaine, Tetracaine, Lidocaine compounded cream. However she does NOT want me to have ice in my hand, Someone else had told me that trick, and I tried it, I ended up slamming it on my crotch as soon as she turned away. However she does NOT allow ice by any means. She said it freezes the skin to the point where it's hard for her to gain entry.

Stress balls, hurt... my fingernails are not the strongest. I look at them and they break.

However I found out my Compounded cream, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen work wonders for about 25-30 minutes.

"You know why I do it, why I degrade you like I do right?" That is completely abusive. NO ONE has the right to degrade you like that. And that little bit about cancer treatments is just an excuse. Plenty of people go through chemotherapy and radiation without turning into abusive monsters.

You are not weak. Transition beats the crap out of everyone who gives through it, and you're almost all of the way through. You're a survivor, and you're stronger than she is.

Genital electrolysis is awful. I've been going through it since July. My electrologist says that I have a high pain tolerance, but it's still hard to get for me to get through an hour. Your electrologist should be calling you down, not bullying you. She's only making it worse.

You shouldn't go back to this provider if you can avoid it. Is there any way you can go private and pay for the electrolysis yourself? Is there an electrolysis school near you where you can have students work on you for a reduced rate? Maybe someone who in the local trans community does electrolysis and is willing to help you out?

As for just getting approved for cream, seriously, what the heck? My surgeon sent in a prescription for lidocaine-prilocaine cream the day of my first consultation. I didn't even have to ask for it. It's totally ridiculous that you had to wait to be approved for a numbing agent, especially since Kaiser is the one mandating the electrolysis in the first case. Does anyone think in these organizations?

Hang in there, sweetie. You're going to get through this. Just take one step at a time.

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[FinallyMichelle]

You are not a whimp.

You know how bad it is for me? Not the pain, I don't mind that, but anyone touching my defective hoo haa. I cried so bad the first time I had it done, I am glad that she was so patient. When she left a couple months ago I still haven't adjusted to the girl that is doing it now, I cry the whole time. That is a pathetic whimp, not liking the pain seems normal.

[Breeze 57]

There's a place in northern Illinois that caters to transgender clients and does sedation, large volume hair removal.  How I understand it, they put you in a twilight sleep and then numb up the area to be worked on with Lidocaine.  A doctor oversees the sedation process then the electrolysis techs will then clear the entire area.  You would probably need about 4 total clearings to be hair free, but it would be virtually pain-free, other than the swelling and soreness afterwards.  The only downside is that it is kind of pricey.  I'm guessing $1,500 per clearing.  I'll definitely do it if I do the pre-SRS hair clearing.