I've recently come out as a trans woman to the most important people in my life. Mostly, it went well. My girlfriend, not so much. She cannot carry on a relationship with a woman. I'm heartbroken about that. We've been together for four years, we're both in our late 30s, we each have kids from previous relationships who have gotten used to our union. It's really rough right now.
My confusion, however, comes from me questioning whether I am REALLY trans, or if I'm just a man who likes to dress like a girl and act like a girl sometimes. A lot depends on that question, because my partner might be able to deal with me not REALLY being a woman. If I was to start HRT though, or want to present more frequently, or out of the house, she couldn't deal.
I have felt pretty confident that I am a trans woman. But then second guess myself and think it's possible that I'm not. I have, sometimes, really liked the idea of having a female body, and starting HRT, etc. I'm not always thinking about it. I think, to ask the age-old question of if I could take a pill and magically be female, would I do it ... I think I would. But still, I have doubts. This is a major thing to embrace, and I will own it if it's real, but ...
How can I tell for sure if I'm trans, and not just a dude who likes getting pretty?
Thanks.