I read a little of your dilemma, I would love to take your breasts off your well not so much hands and trade you my chest. I am M2F and also in a hurry and don't like what I see in the mirror. I take a lot of cold showers to shrink it, I' sorry but it's gross to have.
Anyway if you want weight reduction and square man hips, when you go to the gym, do not forget Dead lifts and squats. You will lose unwanted fat all over, bulk up and square up like a guy. If you want muscles like the big guys have do the exercises they do. I go to the gym and get work out advice from the women for hips getting thin and curvy. I am naturally feminine so it helps.