I went to a ton of outlet stores, saks, Nordstrom's, Marshall's, general luggage, and yes coach. Nothing really stood out. I decided as a last ditch effort to just visit a computer store. I did a search and found a company called Mobile Edge that manufactures bags right next to Fry's (computer store). All the bags are computer bags and also even have an extensive women's line. I wouldn't say its perfect, but I bout the Herringbone Ultra Tote. It's affirming, holds what I need and only $59. Happy with my shopping adventure today. Btw, both Mobile Edge and Coach were the most gender affirming of all sales people. They were not phased at all by me requesting to girly it up, and they did, by lots:)
Bari Jo