Teacher's accidentally being offensive

[snollie]

okay so Im sure she wasn't meaning to be cruel, but earlier today my biology teacher saw me in the hallway and questioned what bathroom i use as she is aware im a transmale. I tried to be patient with her as i dont think she ment to strike a chord, and i told her I use the nongendered single stall bathrooms at my school. After this she further questioned asking if i had to choose the boys or girls room which would i use. i was becoming increasingly impatient with her and said the womens room because there have been instances of ftm people being photographed unknowingly in the boys rooms and had rants posted about them on facebook. She then refused to believe me. Anyways it was an incredibly uncomfortable situation, and im left with the question, do i report her to a guidance counsellor or not? I dont want to get her in trouble but its really inappropriate for a teacher to be interrogating me on where i pee

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. I am assuming that you have discussed this with the school consoler or office staff before you came out. If so, the proper response is " I discussed this with XXXX and I do what we agreed on". That's a way of politely saying  none of your business. If you think you teacher was attempting to learn more or determining if there was a way to help you, it might be best not to report her. If you think she went over the line, then you should report her so she can be instructed on the proper way to handle issues like this.

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[Sparklefish]

This is only my opinion but if this happened to my teen son I would want him to report the incident so in the event that this teacher does this again you will have documented the incident.She might not have meant to be offensive but she WAS offensive. I would tell your guidance counselor and let her know it made you very uncomfortable and you felt like it was a personal violation. You have every right to stand up for yourself in a nonconfrontational way and establish personal boundaries with people.That teacher was definitely out of line.

[KathyLauren]

Welcome, Snollie.  I am sorry you had that experience.  I think you should report it to the school counsellor.  Teachers should be educating young people, but they can only do that if someone educates them first.

[ReplacementSarah]

I agree with those saying you should report it to your school counselor if it makes you feel uncomfortable. It might simply be unintentional offense born from curiosity, or there could be some kind of political agenda behind her questions. Either way, it doesn't seem appropriate for a teacher to randomly stop and question you on your bathroom preferences.

[Kylo]

Go to someone higher up than her and discuss which bathroom would be best for the circumstance. Then next time she has a question tell her to ask her superiors about it.