Quote from: Marcieelizabeth on April 08, 2018, 11:43:05 PM
It is a genuine - real question, but the spirit you answered it in was lets say a bit judgemental as opposed to lets say just truthful and helpful. But that is okay it takes all kinds of people with all kinds of personalities to make up the diverse word.l. we are in...
have a blessed day.
The phrasing of your question gave two options. Possibly three if a blend of the two options is considered as being separate. You asked it, and the question mark invited answers. You have sadly chosen to take my initial response as spiritually hostile (despite it actually being pretty reflective if you read it properly) and that is your choice which you had full agency over.
Ironically, it's only me who's been judged here and dealt with in a way that demonstrates zero generosity - what with your capital wows and takes all kinds comments, followed by blessings. I on the other hand (aside from the first sentence where I directly answered the question posed, and, more fool me, in good faith at that) was not personal but went on to speak generally.
There was nothing particularly judgmental in it. I gave an honest reply and drew on and critiqued more than trans experiences in what makes up the world of a teenager and how they interact and cope with life and with change, and why. There was nothing I said that could be countered by anyone conversant with the development of children and young adults, in practice or theory.
In fact I spoke to several colleagues today about your question, which I think shows a level of engagement far beyond what you wrongly took to be dismissal because it wasn't wholehearted agreement. None are trans, yet all were in agreement that if they could relive significant decisions made in youth, they would. As I said, it's not an uncommon dream. It's just not real.
I think my answer was fairly comprehensive in explaining my own position, and placing it into its proper context societally and in terms of emotional and psychological development. It fits into the wider backdrop and countered, with personal thought (without labouring the point), some critiques of trans people and our maturity. It was not impolite, and nor was it passive aggressive.
However, I also misread your initial post and for that I apologize. You say in it that you thought it might be like being a teenager but it isn't. I must've read that and then not referred back to it in my reply because I knew you'd said it to the extent I was agreeing with you. It is different, and all I said in my reply was why that might be. I hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
